Promise to be there for them. It’s a lot of work but you should expect unexpected calls and texts throughout the day because while you are sleep they are constantly thinking about ending it all through suicide. Trust me I am one and I’ve seen too many deaths that I could have stopped if I had just simply got back to their call/text in time. ╥﹏╥
the best thing to do is asking them how you can help! there's many kinds of abuse and every situation is different.
they surely know more about their own than you do, so let them guide you through it!
you can remind them they're not alone and that you care about them.
what i remember the most from my experience is the loneliness of it all.
i had friends yet i was completely isolated. i felt like i had to deal with it on my own.
but all i wished was for someone to tell me everything was going to be alright, that i was loved, that I wasn't alone!
just a text message asking them how they're doing or if they got home safely can be enough to make someone feel important
i also felt guilty everytime i talked about it with my friends... to the point where it prevented me from asking for help, no matter how badly i needed it.
this seems to be a common pattern among abused people. try to reassure them they're not burdening you and that they can talk to you whenever
(sidenote: this doesn't always work. abused people have to deal with lots of trust issues and they may feel like you're lying. still, showing perseverance and genuinity should help you gain their trust... kind of like a stray cat who won't let you get near until it gets used to you, i guess?)
most importantly, do NOT, and i repeat DO! NOT!!! ACT! RECKLESSLY!
if you want to tell anyone about it, if you want to confront their abuser, if you want to contact the authorities, ANYTHING — make sure you discuss it with the victim first!
as i said they know about their situation better than you do, so don't do anything without talking to them about it. even though your intentions are good, you might put them in danger.
(there are exceptions to this rule such as life or death situations but always think it through before doing something dangerous)
and lastly... helping people who are dealing with abuse is tough work. it's never easy.
i'm glad you want to help but it's also alright if you can't! it's not selfish, do not feel guilty for it.
your own well-being is important! take care of yourself!
Thank you for replying!!<3
Thank you for replying!!!<3
pls in real life how can you actually help someone in that same situation coz I’ve never encountered abusive situations like this but i wanna know how i can help if i ever end up knowing someone that is in the same position