True my mom makes me tremble when my Dad is at work and she gets mad at me and my sister is like a Tiger with Fcking High Stamina being with them before feels like TORTURE but now my sister lives in my grandparent's house and my mom doesn't get head aches anymore cause I know how to take care of myself now *drinks tea in freed bird style*
I'm black and in my family my mom was single from around 8 or 9 because my dad used to abuse us when we were kids and she kicked him out. The thing about childhood trauma is that you don't know it's something traumatic until you're older and compare other kids experiences with yours. Just cuz it's cultural doesn't mean it isn't traumatic, it just means it's normalized. I didn't even remember most of my abuse until I was 18. It's so weird.

Only one thing comes to my mind. And that is woman are scary ʕ ꆤ ᴥ ꆤʔ