I think "best luck of my life" qualifies? Bit more of a submissive seme, but at the same time, incredibly obsessive and kinda/super emotionally manipulative at times if I recall correctly
https://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/the_best_luck_of_my_life/
LOL, not surprised
Hmm, okay, how about December? The possessive bit shows itself a lot more later on, but I feel like the vibe was always there
https://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/december/
Kill the Lights DEFINITELY fits the bill once they're together/the ML realizes who he is
https://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/kill_the_lights/
Katekyo is also a classic, but there is an age gap involved where the uke is in his last year of high school and the seme is in university--just a heads up in case that's not your thing
https://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/katekyo/
Blood Bank is probably not the kind of controlling you meant, lol, but thought I'd include it cuz it's AMAZING
https://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/blood_bank/

Does anyone know other manhwas like this where the ml is this unhealthily obsessed and possessive but not abusive. Ik its weird but i really love their dynamic in this