True, I have a friend who didn't cry after the death of her dad, she felt guilty because, even though she loved her dad, she couldn't cry, she even told me she felt nothing for weeks, she began to cut her arms to be able to feel something.
This is very true bc when I was about 9yrs old my grandpa died and my tears wouldn't come out,it felt strange bc I would cry over anything but for some reason I couldn't cry no matter how much I wanted to,then a few days later I broke down in my room and it wouldn't stop,I just kept weeping silently
Maybe she couldn't process it?
It happens a lot...people can't take in the fact that someone so involved I their life is gone and what it entails.
Could be, that happened more than 20 years old and I only know part of the story, I asked her about her scars on her arm and she told me what happened. Now she is happy, have her own family...
The same thing happend to me i got emotionally numb and i couldnt cry so when i went to his funeral and it was a opened casket i didn't shed 1 tear but later that months i was watching a video and heard his voice i broke down in tears and was a mess i miss my grandpop
The same thing happend to me i got emotionally numb and i couldnt cry so when i went to his funeral and it was a opened casket i didn't shed 1 tear but later that months i was watching a video and heard his voice i broke down in tears and was a mess i miss my grandpop
Here’s the thing.....grief isn’t really a simple thing. Nobody experiences it the same way. So just as PSA to any of you out there that think you know how grief should look/act without having experienced it yourself, you don’t.
I don’t wish that knowledge on anyone. Ever.
And even if you have experienced it. The way you process it will not be the same as anyone else.
If you were going through one of the hardest moments of your life you wouldn’t appreciate people thinking they know your feelings and criticizing you for not acting/feeling how THEY think you should.
So just some RL advice. Don’t do that to other people. It’s cruel.