This makes me question a relationship Would you rather be with someone who has same situat...

I believe both, both can be nice. You have someone who understands parts of your past, and you have someone who doesn't understand but brings a fresh perspective that things can go, and can be different than how you think it's usually done. So I think both are perfect in their own way, you just have to see if it fits you with the other person. Like puzzle pieces, some of them don't fully fit, and that's okay. Do what works for you.