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Hyesung assaulted Dojin
But that’s something people aren’t ready to talk about
And since everybody likes to throw around that r word
HYESUNG RAPED DOJIN
People keep saying “Hyesung was assaulted by Dojin” when the story itself shows the opposite — Hyesung climbed into Dojin’s bed, initiated everything, and ignored his lack of consent. And when the roles were reversed, in the third encounter, people were quick to call it rape.
What frustrates me is how society—and fiction—often flip the script when the victim is male. Studies and reports from organizations like the CDC and the UK Home Office show that a significant number of men have been forced into sex by women, but those experiences are rarely labeled as rape in public conversations. Men are told they “should’ve wanted it,” or “could’ve stopped it,” which is the exact same reasoning people use to excuse Hyesung: “he’s an alpha, he should’ve pushed him off.”
But consent isn’t about strength or dominance. It’s about choice. In both real life and fiction, if someone is coerced, manipulated, or overwhelmed by biological or emotional pressure into sex they didn’t agree to, that’s assault—no matter their gender.
I don’t hate Hyesung, but I refuse to act like Dojin’s trauma doesn’t matter just because he’s male or an alpha. Accountability should go both ways.
And I just know someone is going to jump in and defend Hyesung by bringing up his past or his upbringing. Please — I’m not saying he hasn’t been through things. He absolutely has. But as readers, we have to be fair about what actually happened.
Two truths can exist at once: Hyesung can have trauma and still be the perpetrator in this situation.
When we ignore that, we feed into the same real-world double standard where women who assault men are seen as “emotionally broken” or “confused,” while male victims are told to “take it as a compliment” or “fight back.”
That’s not accountability — that’s gender bias or in situation second gender bias.