Assuming we don't understand trauma because we don't excuse a characters shitty behavior is peak arrogance. Everyone handles trauma differently. Being traumatized isn't really an excuse to traumatize someone else with your behavior. Not saying he's doing it maliciously, or that we have no sympathy for his trauma. At this point they both deserve "better", but the better he needs is therapy.
Dude I literally just said all that. I specifically said I’m not excusing his behavior. I’m saying the reason his behavior is like that Is because of his trauma. Which a lot of you are not fucking understanding. And yeah I don’t think a lot of you guys know just buy the way some of you type and think. I know most people on this website are teens. She also just goes and does things on her own and doesn’t check with him if it’s ok. Communication is very important when it comes to bdsm. And she barely understands it at. You guys are literally all pointing the blame at him like it’s only his fault. Y’all in the comments saying “ she deserves better” is also very arrogant. Yes, she doesn’t deserve that: but you guys are acting like she did absolutely nothing wrong. He did the right thing by leaving the relationship. As he knows it hurting BOTH OF THEM.
There's absolutely nothing arrogant about saying that she deserves better. Also, no one is acting like she did nothing wrong, you clearly didn't read far back enough in the comments. They've both hurt each other. Neither are blameless. She still deserves better, and he deserves therapy.
I see a lot of people saying “ I get that he has trauma but” I don’t think you guys really understand what happens when you experience something like this. The reason his personality and his actions are the way they are is because of his trauma. He wasn’t really like this before and has barely any experience with communication or friendship as he literally had no friends before. At this point if they can’t handle each other so dam needs to learn more about bdsm and min joon needs therapy. He doesn’t know how to interact with people properly and it didn’t look like he knew how to even before he got sexually abused. There was obviously some problems even before his experience with that shity blonde dude. You can see this when his sister made everything even worse. She even said she barely knows her brother. Yes, min joon kinda is making this all about himself ( as rape and abuse victims tend to do ) but that means he needs to know how to communicate he needs therapy. Hugs, bdsm and dating with do nothing but recall his trauma.