I think, for me... Since I don't care bout the age in couple or marriage but at least in a acceptable age, such as... Maybe ur parents got u a fiance at 9 but he's 19.. Well, I'm ok. Since that age is acceptable for me. And , even if we hv a relationship with someone Younger than us or old. Doesn't mean we should take an advantage like hv sx or more...
Better for me, you engage and stay far from each other untill u ready to hv a serious relationship.
If you don't want a serious relationship, u can break it...
Idk if you understand what I say since English is not my first language.
Hey! thanks for participating, I would just like to clarify do you mean a relationship between a 9 year old and a 19 year old or that it was arranged when they were 9? Without clarification it's a little hard for me to get what you're trying to say.
No, of course not hahaha. Pedophiles are people who have sexual attraction on kids ages 13 and below. Like wanting to have seggs with them. It's a condition. It is not supposed to be spoken lightly or accuse someone lightly.
Also, I don't think adults who read bl about teens are pedos. What is happening in the world hahaha
I mean like, some of family want to protect their child so they make an engagement so they'll behave themselves and not going to make shame on their family etc... Like that. And I've my opinion on age that acceptable to engage, at least the worst one is 10 x 29.
And that didn't mean they're supporting pedophiles. It's some culture. Since I know a few country uf your daughter still didn't get married at age 18 thats mean she useless etc.That's why I don't think age is a problem.
You are not a pedo for saying something like that but you should definitely refrain from saying "top" or "bottom" because it's actually fetishizing, it's like saying "who's the female on the relationship??„ It's promotes a very shitty stereotype to gay couples.
And at the pole, it isn't entirely fetishizing or being a pedo if a bl author made two characters have sex. It does depends on what type of story it is.
Agreed^
This is completely understandable. In my case, I'd prefer they all be more realistic as tops/bottoms (in the sense it's used) don't like.. actually exist. usually anyway. The reason I had said it in that specific case i had mentioned to begin with is because of the character dynamic that would be implied emotionally speaking. It's just how i think as an artist/ writer. ╮(￣▽￣)╭ But I completely agree that people should stop pushing gay stereotypes, and I hadn't intended to come off that way. I appreciate that you took the time to explain you're thinking instead of calling me a fetishizing pedophile who should kill themselves like the last guy. (〜￣△￣)〜
Ah I see, a cultural thing. I personally don't like the idea of children being engaged, but I can understand why it wouldn't bother you. I am a huge fan of the manga otoyomegatari so in a way i get where you're coming from. No matter what though I can't condone children being involved in sexual situations, not that I'm implying you think that's ok.
I just got called a Pedo for saying I thought it would be cute if a character was the bottom. I'm a teenager, they just never asked. I also don't fetishize gay people, and think shipping any real people, gay or not, is hella gross. I find that people only freak out about this stuff if it's in a shounen ai comic and the characters are teens, but never if its a bl that already establishes that the characters have sex (explicitly or implicatively).
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▰ SO HERE'S MY QUESTION ▰ . If you you think adults that read bl about teens are pedos, then what about the author which is also an adult? Here's a poll:
https://www.poll-maker.com/poll3690587x35D44992-111
If you have more to say, feel free to comment, but please do the poll also, I'm genuinly interested.