Also, I thought he passed out bent over the bed? How does he remember the seme being a dou...

The implication is that he's bent over the bed in so much pain he's just lying there while the seme tells him it's HIS fault. He may have passed out afterwards. Not sure--doesn't specify. But he had to at some point be hospitalized. He had to have been hurting a lot!

No doubt! Prolly got rectal prolapse. Or hemorrhoids. Those don't go away easily and maybe that's why he only gives head now.

I assumed he was healed after 12 years, but that his trauma makes him not want to risk a pain like that again. Fear. Makes sense, really. I mean, that had to have been AWFUL.

Also, if I were the uke, I'd say he has to suffer the same--he should be the bottom and let himself be taken ruthlessly, painfully, no lube, no preparation, and bleed all the way to the hospital. That will give him some perspective.

If he needed an urgent surgery it wasn't hemorrhoids. It was something much more serious: colon performation. "A rare, but serious, complication after anal sex is a hole (perforation) in the colon. This dangerous problem requires hospitalization, surgery to repair the hole, and antibiotics to prevent infection. This condition requires immediate medical attention."
http://goaskalice.columbia.edu/answered-questions/pain-anal-sex-and-how-prevent-it

If he needed urgent surgery, it was something much more serious than hemorrhoids: colon perforation. "A rare, but serious, complication after anal sex is a hole (perforation) in the colon. This dangerous problem requires hospitalization, surgery to repair the hole, and antibiotics to prevent infection. This condition requires immediate medical attention"

Yeah, you can die from this. People have. And the fact it was so serious the parents found out--as in , not just hemorrhoids or a simple tear--makes me think it had to be along these lines. Perforation, internal tearing.

The uke should demand teh seme bend over while he rams him with supersized dildo and no lube. A little tit-for-tat rectal tearing should help with the understanding.

Haha maybe our uke will be more magnanimous than that! But yeah I thought atleast a restraining order would be on the way but they're flatmates now. (⊙…⊙ ) I feel his emotional pain though.. when in love you can overlook the most glaring offenses, really can be a pain in the ass sometimes - no pun intended.