Just want to give you my best wishes and support. I have a family member who married a good hard working man. They have a child and he’s an amazing father. He’s the baby of 3 kids in the family. His parents were young when they started out. They got into drugs. It was really bad. His sister was the oldest. She gave up her young years to take care of her younger brothers. His parents finally grew up. They moved an hour away, got new phone numbers and refused to see anyone they used to know. They stabilized their lives and spent the next 15 years trying to make it up to their children. The two boys have finally made peace. The daughter is struggling because her life is a mess now. Permanently altered. It’s heartbreaking. If you can, I hope you can make peace. It’s all about you, as it should be. Much love
Thank you honestly it's hard you know, but I want to be happy so I'm trying to find peace within myself
Just remember. One day you’ll be 80 years old. You will go through so many more challenges in life. It will be so hard to forgive, but if you can alleviate one of your biggest challenges, you’ll be able to breathe. You don’t have to give her a pass, but you can try to make it just enough so you can lift a bit of the burden off you. Then have a final huge cry, let it go and face your future that you make for yourself with no demons to hold you back. You can be strong and know that you decide who you will be, where you will go and get what you want all on your own. Just reading your words I know you’re heading in the right direction.
As a person who has trauma and a childhood that I can barely remember being happy. I really want to hug her and tell her it'll be alright, but I also sympathize with Vicente. My mom recently has been trying to fix our relationship and honestly I'm reacting like Vicente (worse even) because we're already used to not having a mother figure that we can rely on so it's kind of like what's the point now. I'm all grown up, so couldn't you have been like this when I was younger? This is a very difficult situation, but unlike my sitation I'm glad it wasn't physical. I'm genuinely rooting for the both of them because I want them to be happy (⌒▽⌒)