When you see him crying over the fact that she sleeps with someone else just remember how she felt when he cheated and kept on cheating on her for so long. At least she had the decency to break up first . He should bear the consequences, end of story. And about the coercion part: Altho "coercion" it was still possible because he allowed it at the start. Everything starts with a kiss or a suggestive approach, not immediate sex. He didn't put a stop at the starting suggestive sexual approach because he was simply not pleased with his current relationship. Altho we can call the rest of their "sexual" meetings manipulation, what about the very first one? You can't manipulate someone into kissing and having sex with you for the first time if that person didn't have any sexual thoughts about you in the first place. That would only be possible if he was a fucking minor who doesn't have any experience when it comes to sex or sexuality. He's an adult. He's not an "angel" as some people make him be. Sure, I'm convinced as i said that he was manipulated about the rest of the meetings, but the first one is on him. If he wasn't pleased with his relationship and had a hard time he should have talked, not all people are capable of analyzing emotion or "reading minds". He chose to find someone else to "please" him during his hard times, now he can stay with that someone else. No one should be forced to stay with someone who has cheated on them and hasn't even considered them important enough to talk about their emotions. He chose to speak about how he feels to the pinkhaired girl, not his girlfriend. He didn't even try once to fix things and immediately ran to the easy solution. He's selfish and his "mental health" doesn't justify or should force her to accept this and stay in such a toxic relationship. Except the fact that she was busy with her career, she never gave him any reason to treat her like that.That's how relationships work, you can't expect your partner to be focused only on you, they have a life too and if you don't talk, you can't expect them to always know how you feel, especially when they're that busy. Tell me, why exactly should she mind how he's feeling when he didn't mind how she also feels at all? He didn't even consider her worthy of consulting yet easily believed some other girl's words. Also, in case you guys didn't notice it, he didn't exactly take her place when that other girl kept on insulting her. How do you expect your partner to be a better person when you never tell them what displeases you in the first place yet proceed to fucking betray them?
It's almost like: "Oh, my man works for his dreams he doesn't have time about me, let's not talk to him, who needs to talk with them and ask them for their time when my fellow from work can comfort me sexually! He doesn't have to know"
and then like " Wow, he found out! How could he break up with me, look how sad i am, why did things turn out like this?! How could he find someone else?!I hate myself."
Yes, he self harms (I've self harmed too before), but does that make what he did okay and that she should still be with him because of that? No
Does that mean that she should feel sorry about his situation at all ? No (altho she does, it depends on the person)
Would apathy make her selfish? No. People react differently to betrayal, and you can't blame them for whichever response they have to it(unless it's homicide.)
As harsh as this sounds, he's not her responsibility. Sure she can care about him to a certain extent due to all these years knowing him but no. She shouldn't put him above herself.
He needs help from therapy, not her. He showed her in every way that she can't even play the part of listening to his problems. He self-destructed, and it was wholeheartedly his choice to do so.
(Note: In case someone got offended, if it sounded like I'm "joking" about depression and self harm, please understand that this was not my intention. I've also been through it, i wouldn't dream about joking about it. I'm just calling out a character about his mistakes that aren't justifiable by his mental illness, especially if they negatively affect another person too.)
When you see him crying over the fact that she sleeps with someone else just remember how she felt when he cheated and kept on cheating on her for so long. At least she had the decency to break up first . He should bear the consequences, end of story. And about the coercion part: Altho "coercion" it was still possible because he allowed it at the start. Everything starts with a kiss or a suggestive approach, not immediate sex. He didn't put a stop at the starting suggestive sexual approach because he was simply not pleased with his current relationship. Altho we can call the rest of their "sexual" meetings manipulation, what about the very first one? You can't manipulate someone into kissing and having sex with you for the first time if that person didn't have any sexual thoughts about you in the first place. That would only be possible if he was a fucking minor who doesn't have any experience when it comes to sex or sexuality. He's an adult. He's not an "angel" as some people make him be. Sure, I'm convinced as i said that he was manipulated about the rest of the meetings, but the first one is on him. If he wasn't pleased with his relationship and had a hard time he should have talked, not all people are capable of analyzing emotion or "reading minds". He chose to find someone else to "please" him during his hard times, now he can stay with that someone else. No one should be forced to stay with someone who has cheated on them and hasn't even considered them important enough to talk about their emotions. He chose to speak about how he feels to the pinkhaired girl, not his girlfriend. He didn't even try once to fix things and immediately ran to the easy solution. He's selfish and his "mental health" doesn't justify or should force her to accept this and stay in such a toxic relationship. Except the fact that she was busy with her career, she never gave him any reason to treat her like that.That's how relationships work, you can't expect your partner to be focused only on you, they have a life too and if you don't talk, you can't expect them to always know how you feel, especially when they're that busy. Tell me, why exactly should she mind how he's feeling when he didn't mind how she also feels at all? He didn't even consider her worthy of consulting yet easily believed some other girl's words. Also, in case you guys didn't notice it, he didn't exactly take her place when that other girl kept on insulting her. How do you expect your partner to be a better person when you never tell them what displeases you in the first place yet proceed to fucking betray them?
It's almost like: "Oh, my man works for his dreams he doesn't have time about me, let's not talk to him, who needs to talk with them and ask them for their time when my fellow from work can comfort me sexually! He doesn't have to know"
and then like " Wow, he found out! How could he break up with me, look how sad i am, why did things turn out like this?! How could he find someone else?!I hate myself."
Yes, he self harms (I've self harmed too before), but does that make what he did okay and that she should still be with him because of that? No
Does that mean that she should feel sorry about his situation at all ? No (altho she does, it depends on the person)
Would apathy make her selfish? No. People react differently to betrayal, and you can't blame them for whichever response they have to it(unless it's homicide.)
As harsh as this sounds, he's not her responsibility. Sure she can care about him to a certain extent due to all these years knowing him but no. She shouldn't put him above herself.
He needs help from therapy, not her. He showed her in every way that she can't even play the part of listening to his problems. He self-destructed, and it was wholeheartedly his choice to do so.
(Note: In case someone got offended, if it sounded like I'm "joking" about depression and self harm, please understand that this was not my intention. I've also been through it, i wouldn't dream about joking about it. I'm just calling out a character about his mistakes that aren't justifiable by his mental illness, especially if they negatively affect another person too.)