I know what real life is like and the leads are shitty exactly because of that. Realism doesn’t excuse shitty character actions.
I never excused any of the behaviour! Saying it's understandable is not an excuse at all.... If you're put in a situation where you have to chose between your family or your partner (as an example), you're going to hurt someone no matter what you chose... And that decision is going to be extremely difficult... choosing who to hurt is not an easy decision at all, and it's understandable, that it takes time and is utter despair to make that choice....
I feel like quite a lot of people commenting on this don't know what real life is like... It isn't pretty... It's complicated and ugly and beautiful at the same time. People struggle with living their true lives because there can be extreme consequences for them, so making decisions about how you want to live is not easy... Yes it isn't fair but it is understandable...! I quite love the message here, because nothing comes easy, and life isn't a fairy tale... I mean, don't get me wrong, I love reading fairy tale stories, but let's not forget that these stories show us more truth about the heartbreak there is for both sides of trying to live the life you want... (Oh except the cheating bastard and affair, that's some bullshit)