Yeah, and although he didn't approach the issue the right way, I don't think it's wrong to say aloud the idea that if the pregnancy is truly difficult, an abortion is an option. It's also terrible for a partner to watch the mother suffer and grow weaker by the day. And it's certainly not up to the man to decide whether to keep the baby or not when it concerns the mother's health. I guess he should've offered more support for her, in daily life and with the decision, all the while showing that no matter what, she is important and precious. She way overreacted, which is understandable during that time of her life (hormones go haywire, delirious from malnutrition and constant nausea, possible depression as well), but a sane person would have talked it out the latest after her body had stabilized. To carry that grudge and make things worse with the man she supposedly loves for over 10 years is insane.
I get the women side, really. Pregnancy can really took a toll on you and that why I think mothers are brave for getting through pregnancy BUT what I will not tolerate is you verbally and physically abusing your husband especially the fact that he stayed with you during your difficult moments.