I couldn't have said it better myself. Thank you for writing this because I can see a shift in the Yaoi/bl reader community that sex and rape are being romanticized to a disgusting point and that making a story solely based on that I'd really poisoning the stories overall. I'm tired of reading really fucked up one and make it a point to try to find some where the victim doesn't just put up with it and that the abuser does change and makes up for it many different ways by being gentle and respectful.
In other words I'm making it a mission to spread word in mostly green flag BLs.
Also, what I meant about the shift is many readers are pointing this shit out and calling it out. It's nice to see that many readers are done with these types of stories.
what annoys me the most in this story isn't just that the mc is a rapist, not to mention all the violence portrayed so far (even tho i think we've moved past the time when the main couple's drama and obstacle in bls are the same as aggression. seriously, don't authors have more creativity these days to create more complex characters and different dramas than this disgusting basic stuff?) BUT ANYWAY what's really pissing me off is the audacity this author had to make dan fall in love first. i expected AT LEAST to see jaekyung chasing after him, being gentler in bed, doing things that show care, struggling with himself about the unknown feelings, and THEN dan starting to see him differently. i was genuinely willing to overlook the initial abuse if the emotional connection began after jaekyung initiated the redemption process, but no. this author managed to turn sexual abuse into SEXUAL PLEASURE; she really made dan emotionally attached by starting to enjoy the violent sex that jaekyung forces him to have. it's not just absurd, it's idiocy. she could put in more effort to make the emotional bond seem even remotely convincing and less like a romanticization of abuse and emotional dependency between victim and aggressor