Girl. Be so fr rn. I get that she doesn’t want her parents to get their hopes up or be...

They aren’t official though. Telling her parents about an unofficial relationship would be weird and after what happened the last time she had a relationship, she has a right to be wary. She told him the truth and explained why she had to go. Her mum practically threatened her using her own health as a weapon. If my mum who I’m NC with were to call me and said I’ll die if you don’t do xyz, I’d probably do it. I don’t want to be the cause of my parents death. Joke or not, it’s scary to be threatened like that. Yes, she should have said no but he saw her on her last blind date. They could have compromised. She goes on the blind date and royally screw that one up and tell the guy to tell her mum to never set her up on a date again and then she meets jihan in the parking lot to go onto a real date. He can listen in via phone call to everything she says to the guy. He knows part of her past yet doesn’t understand how hard it is to have ptsd and how slow healing is. He says he’s willing to wait but when he actually does have to wait, he gets angry. She could have cancelled citing work and then gone on the blind date anyway. She chose to be truthful because she wants to make this relationship work. He’s choosing to be angry over the blind date but he’s not thinking about the fact that she could have gone without him knowing. She could have betrayed him. Neither of them said they were exclusive either. He’s hanging around a woman who clearly likes him too so why should she rush her healing and feelings when he can’t set things straight with other women in his life himself? He could tell that girl that he’s pursuing a woman he cares for and that would show him as more trustworthy than her ex. When dealing with ptsd and relationships (I would know cause I have ptsd and I’ve dated people), it’s not simple. The partner needs to do extra to show how trustworthy they are and how they respect the boundaries set by the ptsd haver. It’s not for the whole relationship but trust is earned. She tried to earn his trust by explaining the situation to him. He hasn’t tried to earn her trust at all so far. He’s been there for her but has he done anything especially trustworthy so far? He didn’t even tell her about his business trip. He let her misunderstand his relationship with his friend/coworker for some time before he decided to explain that relationship to her. Those aren’t trustworthy events. She deserves to be able to keep her love life private until he proves to her that he can fulfil her need for trust and respect and loyalty. She deserves to not need to uphold an unspoken rule of “put me above others” when this is about her parents. He knew her parents are like this yet NOW he holds an issue? It’s ridiculous.