I want to read to y’all the different things that Chang-il says/thinks before they have sex: “since when did it matter what I want, I’ve never wanted it [sex]” “my ass is still sore, but I feel like I have to pay him back somehow”
Yona: “I was trying so hard to behave myself, I don’t want to treat you like those creeps”
Yona understood that by making advances he was placing himself in that same bracket as the two men who raped him for months (obviously he’s MILES better but he’s admits himself that he’s in the same bracket) a more appropriate response would have looked like “believe me, I want to be with you too but after everything you’ve been through it’s more important than ever for me to support you without being intimate and reaffirm your worth to help you understand that your value is so much more than what you can offer sexually”
I very much recognize that Yona is young, most likely doesn’t have the maturity or experience challenging himself to reframe like this. But I stop giving him a pass because he HIMSELF recognized that if he had sex with him then and there, it would lump him into that same category with the others. Because of that, I think we have every right to call him out for that
Also, I’m not dumb, I kno this is a fictional story and that I don’t have to read toxic BLs if I don’t want to and by continuing to read it’s my own doing for consuming media that’s disturbing to me. BUT ALSO, that doesn’t mean that I suddenly dont have right to criticize these characters. Just wanted to put that out before yall jump down my throat with the same comebacks you throw at everyone who doesn’t just gleefully accept the toxicity of this manhwa with open arms
I want to read to y’all the different things that Chang-il says/thinks before they have sex: “since when did it matter what I want, I’ve never wanted it [sex]” “my ass is still sore, but I feel like I have to pay him back somehow”
Yona: “I was trying so hard to behave myself, I don’t want to treat you like those creeps”
Yona understood that by making advances he was placing himself in that same bracket as the two men who raped him for months (obviously he’s MILES better but he’s admits himself that he’s in the same bracket) a more appropriate response would have looked like “believe me, I want to be with you too but after everything you’ve been through it’s more important than ever for me to support you without being intimate and reaffirm your worth to help you understand that your value is so much more than what you can offer sexually”
I very much recognize that Yona is young, most likely doesn’t have the maturity or experience challenging himself to reframe like this. But I stop giving him a pass because he HIMSELF recognized that if he had sex with him then and there, it would lump him into that same category with the others. Because of that, I think we have every right to call him out for that
Also, I’m not dumb, I kno this is a fictional story and that I don’t have to read toxic BLs if I don’t want to and by continuing to read it’s my own doing for consuming media that’s disturbing to me. BUT ALSO, that doesn’t mean that I suddenly dont have right to criticize these characters. Just wanted to put that out before yall jump down my throat with the same comebacks you throw at everyone who doesn’t just gleefully accept the toxicity of this manhwa with open arms