Is it too much?

I feel like some yall aren't understanding that when in a relationship, no one like seeing their partner touched on, whether they knew it was coming or not. He doesn't want past behavior staying normalized while in a relationship. it's not that crazy yalll and personally id feel somewhat the same way. it just wouldn't make someone feel good too see your partner get slapped on the ass and then also told this is normal behavior especially between someone that's like an ex to my partner.