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Hi! Maybe it's better if you post it in the 'thing' section so people can answer better! To me, it sounds like you are doing this to create a better vibe at work and steer it into a way you prefer. She's your manager so it's a power dynamic thing. I'm not sure how to answer since I can't see the difference between people pleasing and creating a more favorable scenerio for myself, but sometimes we change ourselves to create a better scenario since it would be impossible for the other person to change for whatever reason.
Hope this brought you some insight.
This topic has nothing to do with manga but i need someone’s opinion/insight on this
I am not a people pleaser whatsoever ( i just asked my sister if she thinks im a people pleaser and she said and i quote “ not at all”) and i agree honestly im very blunt and i don’t say things to make others happy im honest and straightforward im not cruel but i dont hold back cause i worry about what others might think if someone were to ask my opinion for example and i my opinion was negative i’d give my honest opinion without being mean about it.
However the account director at my job kind of insinuated that i try to overly please my manager at work which was a shock to me cause i don’t see it that way at all. the way i see it i try to get along with her as much as possible cause due to my line of work we’re literally attached at the hip and she’s already kinda toxic so im doing my best to create a better vibe at work so it doesn’t stress me out so i try to get along with her as much as possible. I do have a problem though i don’t communicate if she does something that bothers me (like assigning me a task only to end up doing it herself) im not confrontational when it comes to my manager i usually do my best to avoid it by like doing the task quickly before she does it for me. Is that why im coming off as a people pleaser? am i actually? thing is most of the time i don’t realize what she’s doing with me is wrong long enough to address it the example i mentioned was brought to my attention by another coworker who worked under my manager and experienced the same thing and i was only able to have that conversation with her to do him bringing it up first and me agreeing.
Idk what im doing? am i like trying too hard to make sure we get a long? she literally makes it impossible.. she talks about me behind my back and she might pop a blood vessel if she ever actually acknowledges the work i put it the director thinks she’s intimidated by me but idk
help im lost and it makes me feel so gross and stressed