To be clear, this is not me taking jabs at actually depressed people. I have been there. I know. But this is deserved.
I still have issues with the fact that JJ never bothered to tell him about this move when they were together. He doesn’t communicate shxt. How could their relationship improve when he makes up things in his head and then breaks up with him out of the blue, while also announcing that he’s moving to a different team. It’s not that Leo forgot, he just straight up didn’t tell him shxt.
This would have more weight if they hadn't been in a relationship for 5 years. At that point you should have become more attentive to your partner that you'd realise they were miserable. Even his friends and family could see that he didn't appreciate JJ enough
This!!! Literally everyone kinda felt like JJ was wasted on Leo. The fact that they dated for 5 years and he didn't notice JJ hurting makes you wonder did he ever like JJ past the sex? It doesn't make it any better that he ended up reducing their relationship to just sex with that fwb proposal. I get that he was desperate but that was just so fuckin low.
Actually 5 years being a long time is why it’s as easy to not notice or not notice it there being a problem. When you’re unhappy, you speak up. Your partner doesn’t become a mind-reader simply because years of relationship have piled on. Relationships take work. Leo took him for granted and JJ kept his feelings buried inside instead of communicating them. Leo has pretty much been who he’s always been from the start. For him to change, JJ should’ve voiced his problems. No one can do better if you don’t speak up, they’ll naturally think things are okay as they are.
If the change can't come from within him he should let JJ go. JJ isn't the only one who should communicate either. Not once has he tried to communicate in a way that was not demeaning to JJ's feelings especially after the break up. JJ may love Leo but he shouldn't have to spell out relationship etiquette to a grown man. Leo's arrogance and ignorance is just a choice ATP.
Bro. They broke up. J.J wants nothing to do with him. So I don't think he owes him anything. if he wants to move, let him move.
While it is true that change can only come from within, the fact remains: why would you believe you have anything to change if your partner never expresses the issue they have with you? Things don’t work themselves out simply because two grown folks get together, that’s why relationships take take work. They have to learn to compromise and sacrifice and if the person they’re with is worth all that, then they’ll manage to find the right balance. However that balance can only be found through a good measure of respect and communication. JJ clearly kept sacrificing without expressing how displeased he was about it. It’s not for nothing that we know communication. Leo isn’t the only one to blame for why it failed. They both are.
No, he made that decision before they broke up. Leo essentially learned that JJ had been planning this weeks of not months DURING the relationship. He only told him on the very day that they broke up, that it was a done deal. The only way him not telling Leo he was going to Germany is if he decided to move overseas after they broke up. However the team switch was a decision he made during their relationship and it’s quite possible that moving to Germany was a natural part of that process.
This is incorrect, JJ did tell him about him moving but because he was so self absorbed he didn't listen. During their breakup JJ reminded Leo that he told him and even Leo's manager said JJ must have told him but he forgot since he's - once again - self absorbed.
I can understand JJ bearing some responsibility for keeping a lot to himself but when everyone around them can clearly see how he took JJ for granted during their relationship Leo bears the largest responsibility.
Exactly! JJ even said he broke up with the hope that he would stop being so self absorbed and actually think about someone else other than himself. Yet he turned around and asked the dude the be fwb for his own selfish reasons, he never once tried to see things from JJ's perspective even after everyone who heard about the breakup kept telling him it was his fault
Do you remember the chapter when this was clarified? If not, I’ll just read it over at some point I’m sure. Because what you said is also what I understood at first, but then it seemed it was clear that the manager only ASSUMED JJ told him and that JJ didn’t actually bother to tell him this because he was fed up with Leo already. That’s when I started seeing that Leo wasn’t the only one to blame for the turn their relationship took.
It was during this conversation with the manager. Leo had a flashback of their fight where JJ said he already told him he was going to pack his things in New York
Y'all. I don't know why. But I'm happy to see him depressed. Does that make me a bad person. Maybe it's my sense of justice. I mean his getting a taste of his own medicine. The spoilt brat should have known that this was going to happen when he started treating J.J like a booty call.