Well this is my take

The uke is obviously traumatized by his past relationship(s) which is why he got to this point where he probably no longer believes in a love that lasts and wouldn't hurt him. I understand where his actions are coming from and how he came up with such decisions. He's still hurting, so he probably doesn't care much about how he makes others feel. Traumatized or not, humans are selfish human beings. We do things to survive, to make life bearable. It's a lie if people say that he's not at fault here because he has a trauma. That was probably what I would think too, but then I learned from my psychology class that "you cannot make what you have as your entire personality and that you cannot make everyone adjust to you." I understand the severity of his trauma, but I won't be that kind of person who will not hold him accountable for his actions. He know he's still hurting. He is aware of the seme's affections towards him. He knows he's not ready, yet he's still welcoming the seme. I'm not going to call him names for sleeping around because that's probably his way of coping. It's also not his responsibility for whatever the feelings seme have because he has his own feelings to deal with. However, it is his responsibility to heal and recover from the trauma. As far as I'm seeing, he's really not doing anything to recover from it. A person really can't use whatever illness or disorder they have as an excuse for bad decisions (unless there's really an impairment in the brain). You really can't help a person who don't want to be helped.

For the seme's side now. Seme is clearly stupid. Stupid in a sense where he's pushing the boundaries of the uke. I know, he don't know about what the uke has going through, but uke's actions already speaks so much. In reality, seme's kind are annoying because they keep on pushing even though you already told them that you're not going to fall in love with them. In that sense, he's stupid because he's still holding on to that hope that uke might fall for him one day (I know he will), but he should give him space to heal first before bulldozing his way in? Though I know that this seems cute for a lot, but too much of this just seems annoying to me. Although I also understand his side. He's in love and love makes us stupid (been there, done that). I probably only see myself in him, and that makes it seem stupid and annoying. I'm probably projecting. However, this kind of behavior serves as detrimental for a lot to reciprocate the feeling just because they don't want to see someone hurting because of them, or because they feel guilty that they are "leading them on", or probably because they feel bad for welcoming the affection just because it's pleasurable and convenient. That would make it look like it's not genuine feeling, and just a feeling out of convenience.


In conclusion, I don't know what the hell am I saying because it's so late right now. I'm probably talking gibberish but I hope y'all get my point If you didn't, it's probably I don't make any sense.