im not sure you understand how 3 years can take a toll on anyone. if you did, you would understand the impatience, the anxiety, and doubts that could eat away at a person. yeah, deguchi is hurrying bec if u cared to notice, he was the one always taking the first step and even with love, that gets tiring. seme was acting so indecisive and that honestly would've killed me ngl so maybe u could give deguchi some of the grace you seem to be giving onoda
If you think about it deep, was it deguchi is the more pitiful
I certainly agree with you. I came back to re-read this and I got frustrated and annoyed at Deguchi. I get both sided because at some point, I too had an unrequited crush on my bestfriend for 7 long years except that I atleast made an effort, I was honest, I confessed, got rejected multiple times until I finally let go. But never have I ever forced them to like me right away because I know things just don't work that way. You can't just change your preferences or magically fall in love the moment someone you knew loved you for a long time. In fact, that gives them even more of a burden because they'll feel guilty for not knowing and maybe hurting you unintentionally. That hurts them too you know.
The thing is mostly are siding with Deguchi because he seemed pitiful but my goshh you also don't know the struggle of the other side. Though I'm glad both of them sorted it out at the end and apologized to each other for their faults. That's a start to solidify their relationship.
Also I have never onced thought of just giving my body to anyone or worse different people when my heart belonged to someone else. That's just against everything that I stand for so I think it's about the difference in morals. I don't have a problem with Deguchi sleeping around when he was single but when he still went and kept sleeping around even after confessing to Onoda while pressuring him to give an answer right away pissed me off too because imagine putting yourself in Onoda's place. While you were busy thinking about things seriously, you suddenly find out that they're sleeping around even then get hit with sarcasm when they're the one who wants to get together with you. It makes you feel stupid like that means even if they did get together, Deguchi will go to other people to take care of his sexual needs so what's the point then in comitting?. lol.
Mann this fictional story got me logging in just to reply to your comment ahaha. I just wanna say I felt what you felt too. It's okay if we're the only few ones who sees things from both perspective. It's not about who is more pitiful but more like understanding how complicated human emotions are and how at the end of the day, no matter what gender orientation one has, we suffer the same fate. We get hurt, we get confused, we hyperanalyze things, we make bad decisions, etc. So in the end we're all just humans. Ciaoo. peace out.
I don't think he slept with other guy after confessing, I think he mean he slept around with a guy while having feeling for him in years but we don't know if he still does after he confess, I mean he should have some common sense to not slept to a guy while waiting for the same response
I mean seme or top
I don’t get how most comments are against onoda and siding with deguchi like
Deguchi had no problem having an unrequited crush for 3 years and would’ve kept going if he still thought onoda is straight but suddenly now that theres actually a chance he’s suddenly impatient has no time and it “hurts too much”?? Bro istg if you don’t sit down
Also pointing out onoda rejecting him at first when he clearly thought deguchi was suggesting being with him as a joke LIKE DID YALL EXPECT HIM TO JUMP AND SAY YES LETS GO?/ he didn’t even confess he was just like Oh if You liKE ShiMA ThEn WHy DoNt You LikE Me hAhA ?/???
And considering he thought he was straight till now and only barely just had a small crush on shima, it’s not insane to ask for some time to think about having actual feelings for a man and with possibility of acting on it instead of brushing it off like he could brush off his crush on Shima and what that means about his sexuality and what he knows about himself, LET ALONE suddenly seeing a friend of 3 years romantically and sexually, asking for time to think isn’t insane yet deguchi keeps rushing him with threat of moving on and cutting off the friendship soon like how’s that fair? If you weren’t gonna give him time to make a choice you should’ve kept it to yourself and not confessed, you KNOW he’s been straight till now and it wouldn’t be a sudden “oh wait you love me? Then I love you too” immediate thing so rushing him is cruel, and then constantly putting words in his mouth and running away and acting like onoda is rejecting him when he isn’t, it’s looking a lot as if he only confessed to get a rejection and move on with how much he’s pushing onoda to reject him and not as if he confessed with hope to get together,
all the while onoda’s actually putting a lot of thought into it and not treating it lightly
And then KNOWING THAT you go and tell him “oh don’t think about me, my sexual needs are being taken care of”?????????? Are you stupid????? Like okay sure you didn’t have to be celibate for a man youu thought you had no chance with but still seeing people after confessing??? Onoda is there thinking of his feelings and future with you and you’re getting your sexual needs met with others??? And after all that you’re still jealous of the temporary shallow crush on Shima to the point of testing him knowing he’d say he’s alone EVEN THO HES ON THE PHONE ASKING TOU IF HE CAN GO TO YOUR PLACE EARLY AND WAIT FOR YOU TO COME HOME??> bro do you have a gene of focusing on all the wrong things out of what he says ??
He’s making me wanna pull my hair out