And he only hurt her back as if she’s a version of his dad when the knife reached the bone, cause really? He ran away from bully and youre pulling a “if you don’t come here now we’re breaking up” after all that and want him to take it quietly?
She kept acting like she’s different from others like she doesn’t think about him the way all those gossips do only to in the end be swayed by that bully’s words of all people and let her own judgment of “he’s shy at opening up” lose to his “he’s just playing with you”, and it’s shown she consistently pulls the “it’s the least you can do” card instead of leaving an unsatisfactory relationship cause she likes having that upper hand
And this whole gathering situation… at least if she didn’t know what type of person the bully was… but okay so basically she knew he’d be there and dragged J there as “the boyfriend shield” against his will by guilt tripping, even tho she clearly has no fear confronting him there herself, but knowing he’s a piece of shit, especially to the socially anxious J, and you don’t know the type of stuff he might be telling him to torment him, you still turned around to J about it and just told him to man up? If it’s that easy why did you drag him there as the boyfriend shield in the first place? Not going to the gathering was also an option you know?
Bro her every action is pissing me off, J was a bad boyfriend but she’s just a bad person
Bro she can’t be in the same breath saying “I don’t want you to repay me” and “this is the least you can do for me”, and considering what the bully did to HER in the bar not even thinking not to raise a hand on a girl and in public and the mind games he played on her, did she have literally no consideration to think what the guy could’ve been putting J through? And instead turns it around on him like “oh you’re rich you have an influential father how can you possibly be affected by him” while knowing he’s a shy anxious person? It’s rich coming from her now saying “youve finally found compassion”
And like I get feeling lonely in a relationship feeling like they’re not opening up to you as much as you are to them, and also her feeling hurt that J is suddenly saying he never asked for her to do things for him like it feels like pressure, ye I get feeling hurt by those but that’s a whole separate conversation to have and not in this situation when you know the guy bullies J,
and knowing he’s scum you still take his bait and let him get in your head and you turn around and take it out on J,,, like a year in she should still have a strong sense of a type of person he is and not get swayed by the “oh you wanna marry rich, oh he’s just playing wih you” bullshit,
so basically she knows she dragged J to an event he didn’t wanna go to, knows the bully did soemthing while he was in the bathroom that’s why J is running, and yet still went on to get affected by the bully’s mind games and went to lash out on J…. Like sure J wasn’t the best bf by not opening up etc, but what she did isn’t angelic exactly and I hate that it’s being framed as if J was actually wholly in the wrong for how things ended and as if he wasn’t a victim AT ALL and he only acted like he was,
And even now what the hell is this “oh you wanted to see if you could be with a girl” bullshit at just being told his current lover happens to be a guy, like girl you really just invented a twisted version of J in your head not based on what you knew him as personally but more and more affected by what others think of him
And what the hell is “I just wish you’d treat me with a fraction of how I treat you” etc, girl if you know you’re not getting what you want, either talk to him about it PROPERLY, peacefully, tell him your worries that he’s not opening up etc, and ESPECIALLY not in a heated state while being affected by some bully scum whispering in your ear, orrrrr, ya know, if you’re not willing to talk it out then just break up and let go… but she’s not willing to do either, and she totally at least subconsciously has this savior complex like “oh he’s so pitiable no one gets him so ILL reach out to him” except if she was dissatisfied she could’ve talked it out properly or let go, but no, she liked having the upper hand feeling like he owes her cause she’s all he has
Like I’m sorry my empathy for her only is about feeling lonely in the relationship, but her actions have be entirely siding with J