I just started reading and this lady is ridiculous, 'I thought I'd make friends and hang o...

Avora April 12, 2025 9:58 am

I just started reading and this lady is ridiculous, 'I thought I'd make friends and hang out with guys at uni' and a sentence later, 'urgh this handsome sunbae is dragging me to a meet up? Gross' da'len, how else are you going to meet people and make friends? sorry the complete contradition between those two thoughts in such a small space of time took me out. Roght back to reading

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    Kiki April 12, 2025 3:36 pm

    Oh a certain someone seems to not understand the concept of anxiety or being an introvert

    Avora April 12, 2025 5:25 pm
    Oh a certain someone seems to not understand the concept of anxiety or being an introvert Kiki

    Hahaha i really do, I have GAD, thanks, it's more Why have the assumption you're going to make friends then only be turned off by the idea of going and making the friends? Or at least have her recognise her cognitive dissonance! I totally get wanting friends but being anxious about the act of actually making them but I'm at least aware of the two ways of thinking. I guess she's not there yet but cmon she's 20 something right? It just made me laugh that the author didn't have her see her own contradiction within sentences of each other. That's a common thing with anxiety, know what you want to do but convincing yourself you can't. But she just doesn't really seem interested in having friends anyway. I dunno, I can see how I phrased it seemed insensitive but I couldn't help it, it was just jarring to me. I might still not make sense but yeah... I do understand anxiety. ( ̄∇ ̄")

    Kiki April 14, 2025 4:52 pm
    Hahaha i really do, I have GAD, thanks, it's more Why have the assumption you're going to make friends then only be turned off by the idea of going and making the friends? Or at least have her recognise her cog... Avora

    I get you and your phrasing
    But the "I don't want friends anyway" thing is typical for anxiety or introverts. I see this in myself as well.
    The artist did a good job in displaying it like that.
    Imagine it like you wanting to clean up, you say you clean up, you need to clean up so so so badly, but you lay there in bed and just can't do it
    Your insides are constantly fighting each other

    Avora April 14, 2025 6:03 pm
    I get you and your phrasingBut the "I don't want friends anyway" thing is typical for anxiety or introverts. I see this in myself as well.The artist did a good job in displaying it like that.Imagine it like you... Kiki

    Reading on, she doesn't seem to be struggling much anymore. She's quite forward with her friends she does have and even the random man. Maybe it's specialised to just college or girls or something? I guess I don't know enough about masking anxiety as I could never dress up and my anxiety be gone, but that doesn't mean that's not a thing. But again. It's the characters lack of self awareness that caught me off guard in the first reading. I get what you're saying though.