I do want to clarify something. I agree with too big = hurtful, but not exactly the part about the hymen. It's a widely spread misconception that the hymen tears and disappears after the first penetration, which is not exactly the case. The hymen is a thin layer of tissue located at the entrance of the vagina with blood flow. However, it usually is spotty or more like a "ring" around the opening instead of an impenetrable sheet that is destroyed upon entering something. Think about this: during the period, the blood needs to be able to flow out, which only works because the hymen is usually just a ring or has holes in it. So mostly the hymen's already is "gone" when a woman reaches adulthood. It's meant to protect your vagina when you're younger but looses that function when you grow up, get your period /or/ start having sex. The absence of a hymen/blood on the first night does not equal not being a virgin. And the other way around, because the hymen can be round with an opening in the middle, it can still be there even after having sex.
Now of being a virgin, I would argue that playing with yourself and inserting something is not necessarily the same as having sex with a man (a man specifically). As how I see it, having intercourse with another person makes you "stop being a Bergin(?)", but not playing with yourself (If you turn the thought around, just because a man inserted his thing into something, it does not make him not a virgin. He stops being a virgin if he puts it into a vagina, not a toy).
I actually didn't want to write that long or sound like a teacher, but oh well. I mostly agree with you, especially that bleeding usually means that he's too big, she's not wet or relaxed enough, or it could hint at a medical condition.
I believe that a lot of people would appreciate you for educating those who will read your reply. I actually appreciate the main comment and your reply. Handshake to you both. <(￣︶￣)>
I was very miseducated as a child
I mindo of think she doesn't use the sex toys on herself but rather just for her writing purposes. Maybe it could be shes not that wet since they didn't have enought time for the foreplay
I didnt expect to get sex ed in mangago comments, so glad there are People talking about this stuff its important, thank u for sharing ur knowledge
This! I definitely agree. Hymen can even gone while doing exercises. It’s not necessarily mean that you lose your virginity. It’s just a blood clot, nothing special about.
Wait, she used toys but she claims she's still a virgin? I mean i get being a virgin morally, but she shouldn't bleed after such preparation. She shouldn't even have a hymen after using toys. Is the writer a man? Lol
And the sechs should've been very painful if he's big, no matter if she enjoyed it or not. Even when you're not a virgin sechs can hurt if not done regularly, since the muscles lose their elasticity