In BDSM emotions and having the correct mind set are very important in the play.
I'm willing to have some leniency with my annoyance for both our Dom and sub if we consider these things.
This is MC first bdsm relationship, and he has also technically never been in a real relationship. That type of communication is usually developed with experience.
This is a complicated issue with the simple solution of communication. However some ppls biggest mistake when they see a complicated/difficult issue is they expect a complicated answer.
MC needs to nut up and ask but he isnt obligated to share his feeling especially in a contracted relationship which this essentially is(one as dom/sub and the agreement didnt include a romantic relationship). It is not unreasonable for him to separate himself from the contracted relationship when something that disrupts that contract/agreement emerges, but he needs to communicate that, explain their agreement no longer satisfies him and that is why he is leaving. But bro is in his early 20's so he is still developing that EQ, there are some 20 year olds who already have that EQ but he is obviously not one of them lol.
ML as the dom who is teaching/older/more power needed to sooner rather then later teach that the emotional aspect is just as important. MC's only experience is the ML and watching videos, as the more experience of the two the fault lies on the Dom with that, however, it seems like this is the first time he is teacher/leading a Sub so it's understandable he wouldn't be experienced in the teaching aspect. ppl often forget that just because you're well educated in a subject doesn't mean you qualify to teach.
They're both learning so these mistakes are expected and inevitable. It likely also doesn't help that the communication style commonly used in many cultures is subtly and not direct confrontation. Personally I can't imagine that communication style but I'm sure there are plenty of ppl who couldn't imagine being direct the way I am either.
In BDSM emotions and having the correct mind set are very important in the play.
I'm willing to have some leniency with my annoyance for both our Dom and sub if we consider these things.
This is MC first bdsm relationship, and he has also technically never been in a real relationship. That type of communication is usually developed with experience.
This is a complicated issue with the simple solution of communication. However some ppls biggest mistake when they see a complicated/difficult issue is they expect a complicated answer.
MC needs to nut up and ask but he isnt obligated to share his feeling especially in a contracted relationship which this essentially is(one as dom/sub and the agreement didnt include a romantic relationship). It is not unreasonable for him to separate himself from the contracted relationship when something that disrupts that contract/agreement emerges, but he needs to communicate that, explain their agreement no longer satisfies him and that is why he is leaving. But bro is in his early 20's so he is still developing that EQ, there are some 20 year olds who already have that EQ but he is obviously not one of them lol.
ML as the dom who is teaching/older/more power needed to sooner rather then later teach that the emotional aspect is just as important. MC's only experience is the ML and watching videos, as the more experience of the two the fault lies on the Dom with that, however, it seems like this is the first time he is teacher/leading a Sub so it's understandable he wouldn't be experienced in the teaching aspect. ppl often forget that just because you're well educated in a subject doesn't mean you qualify to teach.
They're both learning so these mistakes are expected and inevitable. It likely also doesn't help that the communication style commonly used in many cultures is subtly and not direct confrontation. Personally I can't imagine that communication style but I'm sure there are plenty of ppl who couldn't imagine being direct the way I am either.
I guess we will just get to wait and see.