I feel like the whole "Straight but" is mostly because a lack of understanding of what being bi or pan is like, after all sexuality can be a whole spectrum and I don't think most yaoi authors do their research they just base of each other's works
Also that's also why i found funny the thing that architect coworker said "two bottoms wouldn't work out" like being a switch or even the possibility of it not being known in gay spaces sounds funny
I won't work for ppl who's strictly bottom huhu. Unfortunately, we do have preference in sex and I believe, a healthy relationship have to have a healthy sex life too. So yeah, it sometimes just do not work with 2 bottoms
Well yes, absolutely, if you’re ONLY interested in bottoming, and are with someone that’s also ONLY interested in bottoming, that probably won’t work. I think hunters point was that in most yaoi’s, they categorize gay people as ONLY tops and only bottoms, even though when looking at actual gay populations, most people fall into some soft of switch category or are at the least willing to compromise sometimes for their partner. That’s not to say their aren’t people that are exclusively tops and bottoms, of course there are, but rather that it’s less common than the very miss conceptualized view of yaoi authors makes it.
That's exactly what I meant, I am aware of there being strictly tops and bottoms in real life, but I was saying that his coworker didn't even consider the idea of him being versatile and questioning the author's understanding of actual sexual dynamics
I love it tho. It portrays how some people view the sexual dynamics. Even people with the same community make and thinks like this. I like how it got portrayed here. Just because you have the same gender doesn't mean you have the same understanding with things so I liked it. I also thought this was another message the author was saying. I've got people in the same community thinks they know me just because we have the same gender. Some just make assumptions. Kinda like this one.
When I was younger some people from the same community actually asked this types of questions and just doesn't really believe it when you say you're both. Although now that I'm older, this question is mostly asked by straight people. I guess it's cause you get to explore as grow older and understand it better. But, usually when you've only topped the prev/current relationship some do immediately assume that you're just some. It used to be irritating cause it's not like you ask this questions with hetero couple.
I'm not good with words but what I'm trying to say is I love how it is portrayed here.
I LOVE THEM- It’s so good, and so realistic, and the way the two of them converse about eachother and how their positions fit into the dynamic of give and take is SO GOOD. I love switch couples for this exact reason!! Like in this it’s never about who tops and who bottoms as some like- tool for dominance or gender roles of “whose the girl,” as most mangas make bottoming out to be a ‘weak’ trait, etc, but in this it’s always about the give in relationships, and their communication and dialogue around it is so good, and has such a mature feel to it. Also the topic about being gay and the fear surrounding, the struggle to be open around people, the differences between Keita and Satoshi’s family life surrounding being queer??? perfection.
Literally the only thing I didn’t like was trope of, “I’m straight except for you trope,” that Satoshi had going on, cause like, if you like a guy, then you’re still bi, even if Keita is the only guy. I think this was the main cause of a lot of Keita’s insecurities, so, I guess it served its purpose as a plot device, but, still.
Other than that??? A favorite of mine that i’ll read over and over again!! The whole manga has such a mature, well developed feel to it.