Thanks, that's a lot of precious informations, if it's okay with you, can i ask some questions about this topic in private mail?
I love that there are safe people in the world like you who actively share important information for others well being instead of berating and degrading others for not knowing or placing blame when something goes wrong. I wish there were more safe and informative people in the world like you
Sure you can email me at [email protected] and I will answer anything I am able to !
Thank you for accepting it as it was meant to be helpful to both sides of the coin. When I was younger I tried to find a community of others like myself so I frequented websites like Collar Me and Bondage but what I found was Majority of them used such places like it was Tinder and it was toxic. For most it was just a way. To hook up or prey on others or was simply their 'online' persona so I stopped looking for Community as it didn't exist and what did pass for one I found disappointing. I'm not a very social person to begin with but on topics I am passionate about I get heated lol. I just don't like people to get hurt so I offer my meager help so they may make an informed choice
One more thing I forgot to say! There is no such thing as a bad question and anyone who disregards you or berates you for seeking knowledge is an ignorant ass deflecting in embarrassment because they don't know the answer so screw them and that applies to any topic not just this one ;p
or here on this site, I completely forgot it had a mail function lol
And I just might. Forgive me in advance for grammatical errors as I am writing with a controller on X. Now down to business. My daughter recommend this as she thought I might enjoy it. I'll reserve judgement until it's clear that it's a healthy Dominant /submissive
Or Master/slave relationship. I do want to clarify some things for the 'normal' readers before anyone gets up in arms. I'm 47 and I'm a Dominant. In my personal opinion most 'normal' people don't differentiate between Kink ,bdsm, fetishes ectra from those who explore out of curiosity and those Born this way. I'm of the latter . In a healthy Dom/sub relationship the submissive partner isn't a doormat and should be respected and cherished for the surrendering of their will to the Dominant is nothing short of a Gift. So I want to say be careful in exploring if you are of this nature, be it Dom or sub for there are many predator's lurking and use this area as a cover for abuse and worse. Find a mentor who will discuss and answer questions and Never ever practice with some you can't trust. Get it in writing! A contract of what can and can Not be done , and chose a safe word. Remember 3 rules Be Safe Be Sane Be consensual! Oh and until you form a contract /relationship with your prospective partner and can fully trust them Do Not Meet Alone!!!! Always meet in crowded places and have several means of escape. Anyone who proclaims to be a Dominant and disagree's with Anything I have said is only out to hurt you! I have seen far far too many young men and women be used and abused under the guise of a BDSM relationship! The submissive is one with power , you dictate the terms of the relationship regardless of kink. It does not matter what it is you are into.. Some Examples Sadism , Masochism , knife play , breath play , or humiliation/neglect can ALL be taken to the extreme so no matter what the subs into safety is paramount. Being a Dominant is as much if not more about Control over One's self as well as the submissive. For the submissive you are the Guide of their desires and the Rein that reels them back in from the edge so you must always walk that fine line and Not Ever lose Control of yourself or Emotions. You have to be a Master of yourself before you can be a master to another. As you can see from all I have said so far .. It takes a certain personality type to be this way . This is Me and my yard stick that I measure by, there are many types of Doms and subs , I just wanted to give an example . I am the serious type it isn't a lifestyle choice but my nature and as such likely hereditary so just in case my children are like me or submissive like their father I have provided information. I did the same here in the hopes that those who by Nature or Curiosity read this and explore , don't come to any harm. Apologies for the long statement.