Is it too much asking for a good bl that doesn't have sex as the main point or as the only...

Leo
Sangyang
Paljae
Ennead
Stigmata
Incidentally dyed by springs love
Solo for two

Honestly, just try the shounen ai tag. They have no smut so problem solved lol. Or, u could try danmei novels. My top 5 recs would be "Guidelines for Role-Playing Rule-Based Strange Stories", "I Became a God in a Horror Game", "The Grandmaster of Demonic Cultivation", "This Damned Thirst For Survival" and "Mist" (lemme know if u want/need links for the novels). As for manhwas/gas/huas recs:

https://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/grieving_you/

https://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/global_examination/

https://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/the_fallen_duke_the_knight_who_hated_him/

https://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/turning/

https://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/saye/

https://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/soul_fire/

https://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/hikaru_ga_shinda_natsu/

https://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/fangs/

https://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/half_of_me/

Faded first love