I remember vividly the day my mother taught me how to tie my shoes, we were by the kitchen table and I tried to do it my way at first but the ribbon was too loose. She sat besides me and told me to look carefully how she did it, I repeated the process right after. She praised me for being a quick learner and left me to tied both shoes from the start, which I did. It's such a simple moment but it became a core memory to me, I felt validated and happy cuz someone told me I was smart...That day I raised my hand in class, when I would never before, my mother unknowingly raised my self steem with a simple compliment. Being raised by narcissistics parents one could say that being elogiated was rarer than finding water in a desert, and those little moments of happiness contributed to not fall into depression. Now as an adult I see the bigger picture, all those years of abuse almost destroyed me, but here we are. Like I, there must be hundreds of people here who don't feel enough, useless even. You are not what your parents believe you are. You belong here and deserve to be happy, it's NOT your fault that your parents are awful, don't let them degrade you because YOU are WORTH OF LOVE.
I remember vividly the day my mother taught me how to tie my shoes, we were by the kitchen table and I tried to do it my way at first but the ribbon was too loose. She sat besides me and told me to look carefully how she did it, I repeated the process right after. She praised me for being a quick learner and left me to tied both shoes from the start, which I did. It's such a simple moment but it became a core memory to me, I felt validated and happy cuz someone told me I was smart...That day I raised my hand in class, when I would never before, my mother unknowingly raised my self steem with a simple compliment.
Being raised by narcissistics parents one could say that being elogiated was rarer than finding water in a desert, and those little moments of happiness contributed to not fall into depression. Now as an adult I see the bigger picture, all those years of abuse almost destroyed me, but here we are.
Like I, there must be hundreds of people here who don't feel enough, useless even. You are not what your parents believe you are. You belong here and deserve to be happy, it's NOT your fault that your parents are awful, don't let them degrade you because YOU are WORTH OF LOVE.