It’s kinda crazy I need to go into detail about what grooming and pedophilia actually are. Because the internet has it so muddled now. Yall are trying so hard to be morally right that you end up watering down these important words which actually, in turn, make things worse for victims like me. By trying to change the meaning of grooming or pedophilia as the Internet has been doing, yall are making it seem less important than it actually is. SMH. You learn words but don’t bother to understand their actual meanings and then just throw them around until they lose their seriousness.
Exactly OP. So sorry and thank you for sharing.
I've explained this to the reupload version, I think?... They just keep throwing the word grooming around here and there as if the MC had whatsoever made or had any intentions of doing sexual activities w the ml when he was a kid
I feel like you guys don’t know what grooming is… he met ML when he was a child yeah, but then ML was “killed” and missing for around 8 years, in which time he grew up. Grooming is when someone is there watching another kid grow up, consistently, all the time, becoming friends with them until they’re old enough. Or in my case becoming friends with me so I wouldn’t tell on him when I was molested. This is not grooming, because MC wasn’t there every step of the way to slowly groom him into a lover, ML grew up without the MC around. By himself, he wasn’t swayed by the MC being around or telling him things (MC wasn’t even around ???) now for the pedophilia allegations. Yeah no this isn’t pedophilia either, it was made pretty clear that MC wasn’t romantically or physically interested in ML. He thought of ML as a kid, but it was an arranged marriage in which he had no say, he did not love ML romantically, did not look upon him romantically. He only knew him for a short while before the revolt. Then they meet again as basically strangers (because they only knew each other for a bit and then 8 or so years passed) and after a while of fighting together and bonding only then, did MC fall in love with ML. Let’s not water down ACTUAL terms just bc ur uncomfortable, it’s not grooming and it’s not pedophilia, for it to be those terms it would have to basically meet the requirements and it doesn’t. Before saying shit is grooming or pedophilia yall should do some research on what those terms ACTUALLY mean. You can’t just use them Willy nilly. This doesn’t meet the requirements for grooming or pedophilic fiction, the relationship btwn ML and MC before the time skip was not romanticized or sexualized, mc only saw him as some kid, he has no feelings for him. It’s also NOT grooming because there’s an 8 year age gap where ML and MC had NO contact, nada, none, they did not see each other, or speak to each other for 8ish years. MC had no idea ML was even alive. Grooming is a consisten form of manipulation, that is done consistently over a set of years. MC had only known ML for maybe a few weeks (maybe a month and that’s being generous it’s been a while since I read it) but not a long time at all, before the ML went missing, ML was then raised for 8ish years, having no contact with MC, so even if MC wanted to, he’d have been unable to actually groom him because grooming is smth that needs consistent contact. MC falling for ML after his return because they bonded and fought together is ALSO not pedophilic or grooming because MC didn’t make ML “fall for him” via manipulation, and MC had no interest in ML as a kid. It was only after meeting each other AS ADULTS, after 8 years apart with no contact (where they were basically strangers) did MC start growing feelings for ML.