
Translation for the people:
"Hi, I read a gay romance and got personally offended that the characters chose their partner over their toxic family. Now I'm spiraling into a TED Talk about how sex is evil, love is a scam, and ancient societies had it right. Apparently, caring about your partner makes you brainwashed, but blind loyalty to family—no matter how shitty they are—is peak intelligence. Also, I hate fun, affection, and anything that makes me feel things."
Hope that helps. ╮( ̄▽ ̄)╭

You know, “blood is thicker than water” has been bastardized, but it doesn’t mean what people think it means. It’s actually the opposite.
The full quote is "The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb." What it means is that bonds forged through shared experiences, loyalty, and chosen relationships are stronger than those formed by blood or family ties and…
I remember reading once that your SO should be the most important person because they are the person YOU chose to love.
Hajime from Fruits Basket Another also said it well when talking about his biological grandpa.
So, no there is nothing wrong in choosing your partner if family is no good.
Another yaoi trash where they're trying to tell you that a boytoy or girltoy is more important than family, that they should be always be treated kindly, given endless benefit of the doubt and accomodated no matter how grossly defective they may be but you should subject everyone else, even your family, to the harshest, most unrelenting scrutiny. They're trying to indoctrinate you with the poison that family is always the problem, never you and definitely never your pet, and being yourself is about abandoning your family and putting a stranger over everything and everyone else just because you have the hots for them. This is another one of those garbage romances that is polluted with the idea that you stick with your hoe (note: hoe is meant to gender neutral here) no matter what but only keep family and friends around if they're perfect at all times. These people act as if anything you do for friends and family is a favour but a lowly sexual relationship has a natural claim to your utmost care and effort. When any healthy, intelligent person would instinctively know that it's supposed to be the other way around.
One of the very few areas that I concede that less advanced societies are better than us in is the understanding of interpersonal relationships. They understood that kinships were the most important and essential human bonds and gave them the position of primacy. With friendships and alliances following right behind. Sexual relationships were looked down upon and treated as a frivolity as they should be. They had it right. This mate control, parasocial stalker level
insanity should be limited to the shamed and shadowed corners of culture but unfortunately, it's overflowed out of the fringes and polluted even the mainstream.