That kind of blame shifting, you do it when you're a traumatized teenager who still needs to work on processing your guilt (religious guilt and traitor's guilt) and trauma. When the emotional intelligence to go through all that and understand you're not the only victim here is lacking still. Once you're like 25 or something like that, you're too old to still go around blaming anybody but your abuser and yourself, because "I wouldn't have gone through religious trauma imposed by my family, if it wasn't for the boy who had a crush on me, and presumably I too had a crush on". You went on and accused him of SA, he had to change school, you don't know him or what he went through in the last few years, you're working and have a boyfriend freely, and yet you still decide to play the oppressed Olympics and pretend like nothing happened to garam in the meantime. Now you're also a violent abuser yourself, congrats
That kind of blame shifting, you do it when you're a traumatized teenager who still needs to work on processing your guilt (religious guilt and traitor's guilt) and trauma. When the emotional intelligence to go through all that and understand you're not the only victim here is lacking still.
Once you're like 25 or something like that, you're too old to still go around blaming anybody but your abuser and yourself, because "I wouldn't have gone through religious trauma imposed by my family, if it wasn't for the boy who had a crush on me, and presumably I too had a crush on".
You went on and accused him of SA, he had to change school, you don't know him or what he went through in the last few years, you're working and have a boyfriend freely, and yet you still decide to play the oppressed Olympics and pretend like nothing happened to garam in the meantime.
Now you're also a violent abuser yourself, congrats