It's funny I saw my past self in hyunjae but I still can't blame wonil, coz I feel he so far has ended up playing the role that hyunjae set up for wonil, he did love hyunjae and was open about it, and ultimatly had to distance himself because he thought thats what he needed. I assumed initially wonil was trying to end this for good as hyunjae wanted affection without the commitment with wonil. It's a huge responsibility for wonil or any partner to bear, to help overcome someone's trauma of their self worth.
I feel wonil was the reality he refuses to face because of his fears and he's happy to live his fantasy with jaehyuk instead no matter how messed up.
Anyway loved hearing new perspectives!! I can't stand the wait for the officals to catch up
oh 100% it is not right to completely blame wonil, because hyunjae basically set up a self-fulfilling prophecy by acting the way he did towards wonil (nobody loves me, everyone leaves me). he pushed him away and wonil took that as he had to stay away in an emotional way. and wonil isn't a mind reader, so he doesn't know what hyunjae truly wants. and that's what i meant with wonil failing from the beginning, he gave up on having anything meaningful (which obviously came from hyunjae's actions) instead of actually having conversations and trying to make it work between them.
and yeah the conversations could've come from hyunjae as well, i'm not saying otherwise. but he's obviously traumatized by his past experiences. they both fucked up the relationship. but wonil saw that hyunjae was lonely and even now knowing where wonil comes from the whole "you want to pretend to be lovers again?" hurt me like fuck bro. he doesn't want to pretend he wants it, he just doesn't think you want it.
yes wonil should've made a clean break. since he didn't bother communicating, he should've just taken a step back, probably would've been the best for the both. and i do agree no one should have to take on someone else's traumas! but if you love the person and want to be with them, you need to at least make an effort to understand why and see if the other person actually wants to get better and heal. it's a mess!! but i do think it's a lil silly of wonil saying hyunjae trained him to become how he is, he himself put up that façade because that's what he thought hyunjae wanted. because he put hyunjae's wants and needs (what he perceived as his wants and needs actually) above his own well being :(
AND YES!! that's literally it, that's what hyunjae's story was from the beginning, reality vs fantasy. real vs fake. and running away from what hurts him. he feels safe and loved in that fantasy...but only surface wise. because he's actually very anxious, unsure and afraid when he stops to think about it all. he's deluding himself, trying to convince himself because he's scared of being rejected and abandoned by wonil and reality.
anyway I'M SO SORRY FOR THE HUGE REPLY AHHHHHHHHHH i just love talking about shit like this. and it's always so cool to be able to talk about stories with someone else!! thank you!
SORRYY your reply got buried under all the manga notifs!!! I love talking about manhwas too thanks for yr reply I liked hearing ur perspective!
I agree with you for the most part, but I do think so far hyunjae himself doesn't know wat he needs/wants, he's troubled and hence says he wants to try to see the ended with his kidnapper, wonil steers in the right direction but always ends up in the wrong track so far.
"you want to pretend to be lovers again?" Was truly a sucker punch with hyunjae thinking he's falling out of love to wonil feeling helpless because he doesn't want to play pretend.
(But i believe a therapy session or two would've done these two a whole lot of good)
Nevertheless loved these fucked up little blorbos I'm really curious as to how it'll play out....
no problem haha that happens!!
it's def interesting how obsessed he is about how their story is going to end, he's holding onto hope they'll be happily ever after as if it really is disney fairytale. and at the same time one of the reasons he can't bear to let go is his abandonment issues. he hates the thought of being abandoned, so the idea that he'd abandon someone else instead? someone who "needs" him just as much he needs them? it's impossible. and also the anxiety and gaslighting makes it hard to get away.
wonil is a fucking mess and keeps fucking it up, because he's also not ok poor dude is fucked up. and he fails because he simply keeps pulling away because that's what he thinks hyunjae wants.
right??? that shit hurt and he didn't say it to me akjskddfg how a sentence changes meaning depending on the POV huh
one or two???? they need years of therapy sessions LOL
yessss gotta love me some fucked up little blorbos
i can't believe it stops there. and now i need to wait for the officials to catch up i am going to fucking cry holy shit
i have a lot of thoughts about this but i'm just gonna say that yeah wonil fucked up their relationship. taking a step back was the wrong move, but he was young and dumb...and he's still young and dumb tbh. not saying it's all his fault ofc. but if he really loves hyunjae he should have stood his ground for their relationship, and actually talked all of it out with him. about hyunjae's fears and worries. taking a step back and acting like a fuckboy who doesn't actually care about him is just stupid.
and yeah hyunjae is the other part of the problem for pushing ppl away and giving up on the thought of ppl loving him and sticking with him which wonil basically perpetuated with his behavior. so when someone shows up and basically takes over his life, love bombs him, gives him everything he asks for and acts like he'll never leave him? yeah he holds onto it. even tho the dude broke his fucking leg and kidnapped him. it's a lot of manipulation. and the idea that he also had a leash on him made him feel like he had some power over him, therefore couldn't be manipulated (liiiiies). ok i wasn't gonna talk this much i'm gonna shut up just holy shit this is so good