I think the difference between haesol and the others is that the others essentially mocked him and ridiculed him for it despite being aware of his actual gender and overall had malicious intent, however haesol didn’t have any bad intent when she thought he was a girl, she was genuinely asking and didn’t know at all. That’s my personal opinion- I think it’s a difference in intent
I was actually pretty excited about that. Guess I got tired of the typical boy meets girl story and they like each other. I'm curious as to how the story will develop if Haesol didn't actually like Yeonwoo. Will Yeonwoo continue to love Haesol even if Haesol doesn't love him back? Or worse, Haesol fell in love with someone else and Yeonwoo gets his heart broken. Or will Yeonwoo break up with Haesol after he realize she didn't love him and get his heart broken anyway? Honestly, there are so many interesting scenerios that I was looking forward to. Needless to say, I was caught by surprise. Luckily, it did not dissappoint.
Yeonwoo breaking up with Haesol felt so real and so deep. He loves her so much. But no matter how much he loves her, she will never love him back. So there is only one thing left to do. He needs to break up with her. Even though he still loves her. Even though it will utterly break his heart, he knows that it's for the best. Remaining in the relationship will only hurt the both of them even more. Which is why he made the decision to break up with her. To stop loving her even though his heart ache at the thought of casting his feelings aside.
But then, she kiss him. Even though she doesn't love him. Even though he's already steel himself to not love her any more. The tears that he endure and the sorrow he felt, nothing compare to the pain that that kiss alone brought. That kiss made him realize just how hopelessly in love he was with her. But then he is reminded again that no matter how much he loves her, she will never love him back. No matter how much he pour his heart to her, she will never accept his feelings.
So why kiss him? Why give him hope when there is none to begin with? Is the person he love truly this cruel? A person who will simply string him along until god knows when and cast him aside when she finds someone who she truly loves? If that is the case then why did he fell in love with her? Why did he fall for someone so cruel? That kiss wasn't just an insult. It was a curse. It made Yeonwoo regret loving Haesol. It made him hate Haesol. It made him hate himself for loving Haesol. If the type of person he falls in love with is truly this cruel, he might never be able to fall in love again.
But then, Haesol embrace Yeonwoo and cried when Yeonwoo told her he hated her. Even if everyone else doesn't love her, even if the entire world hated her, Yeonwoo alone is not allow to hate her. For Yeonwoo alone is the only one she can't bear to be hated by. Cause Yeonwoo is the only one she truly loves. She only realize this when she saw Yeonwoo's love turns to hate before her very eyes. That is when Yeonwoo realize that the kiss wasn't a curse. It is a kiss to break the curse.
No, i feel like ur wrong with him being okay with touch because just because just because you have trauma doesn't mean that you think about it or are triggered by it all the time like think about it this way, just because you have one or a few bad experiences at ur favorite restaurant but every other time was great you're not going to never go to that restaurant again, you just blame it on the chef cooking that day and you could say the same thing for sex...kinda its oversimplified but I can understand where you are coming from tho as a person who hasn't experienced any sexual trauma, its complex and not as debilitating as media often portrays it but also it does depend on the person
true, but some others didnt mock hiim, and he seemed a bit pissed. but yeah you are right, she had the most normal reaction
yep i think the same. that part was beautifully portrayed, their real confession ecc. i felt it so hard, and it was so real for that
i'm sorry to break it to you, but i spoke because I experienced a sexual trauma... and because of that i feel repulsed by intimate physical touch. i dont really want to talk about it, but... it's not like movies.. yeah... from a point it is even worse...
And i know everyone is not the same... but your exemple is too plain... you know right that being graped and going to a restaurant you dont like it s not the same right?
if you eat a cake you dont like, and next time someone offers you a cake, you might be "traumatized" by the taste, and not wanna taste it, but you might wanna try it and find out you like it, it was just that time that it was bad. because it wasn't to the point your psyche got destroyed...
BUT that depends from the gravity of the trauma...
one year of SA and severe bullying, where he literally panics every now and then by just nominating the middle school years... makes me think that it was pretty much a BAD SEVERE TRAUMA
So, i'm not saying he needs to be repulsed by physical touch at all... but you know, i expected at least one thinking about that...
everything else in this manhwa was portrayed perfectly, so i dont like that now the power of love makes it go away by blinking an eye
?? I obviously spoke also from a place of also being sexually assaulted multiple times and im the opposite, i have no problem with intimacy with other people and it traumatized me yes but not in a way that it effected my sexual intimacy, I know it's oversimplified but that's how I view my assault i will not allow those people to have such power over me that i deny myself from extreme pleasure moments because of why? These people had the nerve to me when I explicitly told them no?? Fuck no I won't let them have the power so yea thats how it is for me yes Im sorry you have experienced it in a way that its debilitating you. Im sorry who whoever did that to you should have never did that and I hope they suffer in the deepest pits of hell, because yes it's not easy at all after something like that happens and it does affect you but sexual trauma is SO different then other trauma. Idk how else to explain it but more complex your body literally got violated in the worse way, it's intrusive. But thats what makes the brain act weirdly because depending on the person and yes how servere it was you act differently but I know myself and i know other people(people who are very close to me) who have experience extreme and I mean extreme assault and it does not effect their intimacy with other people, it makes them the opposite [hypersexual] and thats the route that I and the other people I know went down, so yes I feel like it should have been portrayed more but not necessarily in a disgusted way tho because it's not the case for everyone's trauma
thanks for explaining it from your pov. that's how you cope with it, and you have a strong mentality. i'm glad for you it turned out for the better.
but yeah, for this manhwa and this weak character, i just hoped for something stronger too. just that
i know this story since years but never tried reading it cause people commented that kang haseul didn't really like him, so it got bitter for me.
Finally 2 days ago i started it because i felt like i waited enough and i wanted to try it myself. Im so glad i read it cause i love this. i'm glad i waited since now they are really in love and everything (which i had to wait 150 chapters... but ok) still super nice. I love the traumas portrayed and relationships.
BUT
I have some complaints:
SPOILER
1) lots of the earlier chapters are about the blond girl. like... ok nice, but tbh i didn't care less for her at first... like i thought a part of the story like that would have been good later?.. you know first you explain the main character and then in case the sides. I liked that thanks to her we see the traumas of the others, and development, but idk, i just think she had too much screen time? (both the bullying and the skirt.. like, just one of the 2 problems was enough), but this is my personal opinion. i like her, just thought she was too much about her
2) the mc was most probably raped in middle school.. if not that, molested with naked pictures and stuff.... so... HOW can u be ok with physical intimate touch... like he has the whole trauma about the bullying, but when it comes to that part, it seems that scene disappears... idk, if i was molested to that point... i would be strange to kiss deeply someone and think of them in the bed? idk if you know what i mean. it's just like... i would have liked a scene in which you could see he was a bit scared, and then thanks to her he understands that she is his safe place, that she wouldn't make fun of his body, or idk. Not him just thinking, omg these things only in marriage... like cute... but not the reaction i thought.
3) also the fact that he is seen as a woman... when others do, they are monsters, bad people.. when thought, kang haseol did in the literal first chapter... no-one bats an eye.... But when others??? society ... SOCIETYYYY
If you read till this point thank you, and feel free to comment, like maybe i just have a dramatic vision for things. let me know you opinions