See this is coming from someone who likes this story, but are u saying rape fan be forgiven??? Just accept he is a rapist, and u like this story instead of trying to justify it. People arent black and white. But rape is rape. Just because it is romanticised/forgiven here doesn’t make it okay to just forget it and move on. I also enjoy this story and look forward to side stories very much but taeju is a rapist.
Idk why you would bring your own example,
But no SA victim is gonna think about the little goodness their prepter or “look at bigger picture”. They are victim and no amount of time will make them forgive or forget the doer .
Everyone is allowed to have their own opinions, as I do and so do you. "No SA victims" is going too far since then you're undermining my own painful experience. I am one, I've been in my own suffering and suicidal attempts for years, and I still am not open to romantic feelings or relationships. Everybody told me I'll die alone if i keep this up, but the notion of giving myself to somebody else regardless of their genders is less than appealing to me, if not disgust.
Even so, it's not that i don't yearn for romance, I do wish i could have romantic experience, however unfortunately I couldn't. Maybe it stemmed from this yearning, despite how broken I am, i wish something could change, something which could make me happy and open my heart could happen.
And yes, my assaulter tortured me for years on end, I was rendered mentally ill well up to my college years due to his "work" on me. Would be easier to bear if he wasn't a family who lived in the same house as me. I reached to the point of wanting to kill him, I did, i don't know why i didn't, I ended up crying in my room instead. But you know what? He did changed, he never apologize to me in words, but i could feel it in ways he tried to do and give me everything i asked now. I used to hate him, i did, but it's hard to explain unless we experience it ourselves. He did change and i let it go, for the betterment of myself.
My experience is my own, and my own feelings. Whatever crime someone did, they must pay for it, they deserve what's coming for them. If people choose not to let go or forgive, that is their choice, because sometimes they really don't deserve it. But for myself, i don't want to keep my heart so little to people who did repent and regret what they did, for I'm not perfect myself, I'm lacking and i do make mistakes, and in the future we never really know what kind of mistakes or trespass we could do towards other people, intentional or not.
i think... you've gone overboard for justifying crime cases irl just to defend a fictiobal character. im a dead dove enjoyer, noncon is one of my fav genre even but...can you choose some better words? it's really triggering and disturbing. im a survivor too and fictional noncon didn't trigger me, it's strange that i got triggered by your words eh? bc the way you said it seems like you're failed to differentiate the fiction and reality.
Are you addressing this to me or the person above? If what i said triggered you and you are/were a victim, that's because what i said is my reality. Fiction may or not trigger you because they are fiction, they are romanticized, watered down to fit their "fetishes".
If I failed to differentiate reality and fiction, I would even be here reading this story :)
However I worded it, other people would see what they want to see and not the essence which I'm trying to deliver. That's okay, take it as you will. Good day and may you all stay safe
What do you care? Why does that person have to admit to anything? Great for you that YOU are incapable of accepting that this story is FICTION, but it doesn't give you the right to tell other people how they can or can't feel.
So enjoy the story, but let others enjoy it however they want to too.
I will also enjoy it because I LOVE TaeJu, I did from the beginning.
I separate reality from fiction, that is the only reason why I would like the story “separating reality from fiction” means you acknowledge the fact he is rapist and the fact you still like the story. But you are in denial and also someone with Stockholm syndrome. You are trying to justify your reason to like taeju by saying rape can be forgiven. TBH listening to your opinion is like listening to the opinion of cadged bird
Tell me you don’t understand the purpose of a story without telling me you don’t understand the purpose of a story. You do realize that fiction has affected reality multiple times? You are what you feed your mind. The slenderman killings???
Also you speaking on how you loved Taeju throughout everything he did really speaks volumes about how strange you are. He is a rapist and you love that man. Do you not comprehend the fact that you would NOT say this if he wasn’t conventionally attractive? Not only that but you are enforcing the idea that rape in fiction is fine even if it goes unpunished and influences innocent minds to think that rape is okay and that if the perpetrator cries enough while being attractive to you they’re now a green flag. Get help.
I love the side stories
Also a bit sad that people are too black and white, when realistically there's no one irl who are black or white, little evilness or little goodness we all have. There are people with pure evil but there aren't one with absolute goodness. Taejoo was an evil person with little goodness, and he did change for the better when he realized his mistakes and wrong ways of doing things, and he didn't erase his wrong doings as if it never happened, he carried it all with him to make sure he never do it again and be better, be the good person he wished he did in those moments he regretted.
Cancel culture is harmful to people who had potential to grow and be better, especially when other people judge without trying to see the bigger picture.
This thoughts came from a place of abusive childhood, ones which when spoken others would told me they're proud I've survived it. And the people who delivered those suffering on me, they did changed, unbelievably to the point some times i do wonder why they did what they did when they're capable of being the way they are now. They didn't know better, the memories of pain are still there ofc, but that doesn't mean nobody can change their evilness. I was a victim and I'm a witness, there are those who changed, and those who don't.