i see a lot of people arguing about which one is in the wrong, but i would say that BOTH have hurt each other immeasurably. songrik and jinhyeong were both deeply traumatized kids with poor impulse control and underdeveloped empathy. their actions are largely derived from what has been modeled to them—jinhyeong will sit on his high horse, take the easy route and succumb to his father’s pressure out of self-preservation, while songrik is inclined to be nasty and try to knock jinhyeong down because that’s how he has been hurt in the past. songrik undeniably took it too far, avoiding communication in favor of using brute force and humiliation… i do pity him, but he absolutely escalated the situation in a petty, immature way. nevertheless, jinhyeong was also immature for retaliating in the way he did. he knew just how much it hurt to be publicly humiliated, and he did it back to songrik as a kind of retribution… but it’s all too much. neither of them deserved this. jinhyeong made the wrong choice by going back to his father in the first place. this has nothing to do with songrik and his complex about personal sacrifice and whatnot. for jinhyeong’s own sake, he shouldn’t have made that choice—this isn’t to blame him at all, because what jinhyeong had with his father was a strong trauma bond that made it incredibly difficult for him to break free from his grasp… but it’s important to recognize that songrik was NOT the only one who relied on harmful, maladaptive coping mechanisms to get by. this entire thing was caused by a series of poor choices and ignorance by both parties.
i see a lot of people arguing about which one is in the wrong, but i would say that BOTH have hurt each other immeasurably. songrik and jinhyeong were both deeply traumatized kids with poor impulse control and underdeveloped empathy. their actions are largely derived from what has been modeled to them—jinhyeong will sit on his high horse, take the easy route and succumb to his father’s pressure out of self-preservation, while songrik is inclined to be nasty and try to knock jinhyeong down because that’s how he has been hurt in the past. songrik undeniably took it too far, avoiding communication in favor of using brute force and humiliation… i do pity him, but he absolutely escalated the situation in a petty, immature way. nevertheless, jinhyeong was also immature for retaliating in the way he did. he knew just how much it hurt to be publicly humiliated, and he did it back to songrik as a kind of retribution… but it’s all too much. neither of them deserved this.
jinhyeong made the wrong choice by going back to his father in the first place. this has nothing to do with songrik and his complex about personal sacrifice and whatnot. for jinhyeong’s own sake, he shouldn’t have made that choice—this isn’t to blame him at all, because what jinhyeong had with his father was a strong trauma bond that made it incredibly difficult for him to break free from his grasp… but it’s important to recognize that songrik was NOT the only one who relied on harmful, maladaptive coping mechanisms to get by. this entire thing was caused by a series of poor choices and ignorance by both parties.