erhhhh, have some respect for urself, and dont put up w that type of situation. If theyre like this when youre just engaged, what more when youre married? tho im not telling you to break this right away, your fiance MUST learn the boundaries on his siblings and his marriage, and also to give u the respect u deserve. They dont have to love you, they just need to be polite and not be a dick. Remember that your fiance isnt ur whole life, u have friends and family are there for u, supporting u throughout. And if u dont, then just come back on this comment section (づ￣ ³￣)づ
gluck OP !! wish u luck <333
If you’re going to be marrying this man and trying to spend the rest of your life with him don’t let him or his family treat you like shit lol. The fact that he’s getting so defensive and up your ass about a valid problem you’re trying to address is a red flag. He’s disregarding your needs, invalidating your feelings, and not making you feel seen. Don’t stay with him now, ignore the red flags, then regret it when you’re even older and too far in that you feel like you can’t leave. You shouldn’t have to “bear” or put up with anything if he truly loved you.
He is expecting you to act like a parent for his siblings which is not your resposibility. From this, you can see how he's treating you. Just think about your situation, and whether you want to be treated that way for lifetime after getting married. Cause you don't deserve to be treated that way. And him saying "new" to you right now, if those behaviours of his siblings continue to last for a long time, then his next excuse will be, "Now, you're already old to my family members, just get used to it." ot smth like that.
So i got engaged to my b.f 1month ago.. and he has many siblings 2 elder brother and 6 younger siblings (2 female and4 male) so the thing is his one of the elder brother and his one sister didn't treat me good.. on our engagement day also they made a rucrus but from his family side nobody told them anything like to stop or anything.. and now its been 4 months one of the younger brother is staying with us.. like he is doing schooling from here.. my fiance is doing all finance here... So this brother was all good in this 4months but my fiance has to go other city for a training the problem arises from here.. his brother starting to act bitter towards me.. doesn't reply when I call him for dinner, lunch , breakfast etc.. even though he is actively hearing me.. so i initially ignored those things.. but this continued so i complain him about all this matter... Initially my fiance didn't react there were no reaction from him.. so unsatisfied me complain 2nd time the next day-- then he started to get angry with me and stating to say " you are new, so don't comment on my family" i wasn't commenting about his family but just complaining about how his siblings are treating me .. then he again got angry and starting to say many things like-- did my brother hurt you, kick you , punch you like that.. he clearly knows how his family mentally exhaust me.. I again told him that I don't want any more of his siblings to stay here with us cause they don't treat me right.. so he is saying that we won't stay with them for lifetime.. just bear upto ther turn 30 or they get married.. but I want my life peaceful if I would wait for them to turn 30 i would be in my 40s..so i don't want that .. i have explain many times but he didn't seems to understand me.. he is only thinking abot his family not for me.. so this is the situation..so I told If our relationship is " old enough for you to prioritise, i will come back . For now I'm going home" (as he is referring me as new " )