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Uhhh- I agree he's a jerk but can we not call her "innocent" especially considering she is GROWN. Like im pretty sure she only has a 5 year age gap with Minshit which means she shouldn't be infantilized, she knew what she was doing. Even if we are ignoring the part where even after Minshit said he and Haesoo were ABOUT to get divorced she still decided to stay with someone she wasn't even sure was getting divorced. BUT EVEN IF WE FORGET ALL THAT, She was saying all those horrible things about Haesoo without even KNOWING Haesoo. I'm not saying she's a "homewrecker" and I am saying minshit is in the bigger fault but she is NOT innocent, ESPECIALLY for talking degradingly about haesoo. this is her karma too hopefully she'll learn from this experience.

ahri was actually lied to, mincheol insisted that haesoo one sidedly kept pursuing him despite them being divorced. no one is infantilizing her but her inexperience should be taken into account here. she’s young, crushing on an older man, and is spoiled and sheltered by her parents. what do you mean she knew what she was doing? you say you find mincheol more at fault but here you are finding everything little thing to blame ahri for. she doesn’t know haesoo. for all she knows, haesoo is the one trying to take HER man, when it’s mincheol playing them both. ahri tried breaking up with mincheol after learning about him still living with haesoo, which was the right thing to do, no? how can you blame her when she actually tried to do the right thing, and how can you blame her when mincheol was the one decided to lie and play the sympathy card in order to tug at ahri’s heart strings. she was at her lowest when she found out mincheol still lived with haesoo, again, she’s sheltered and has probably never been through this type of turmoil in a relationship. mincheol took advantage of that, and convinced her that he had no feelings left for haesoo and they only still lived together out of convenience. do you not remember how mincheol first introduced haesoo as his relative? NOT wife NOT ex-wife either? literally how was ahri supposed to know.

they’re both victims of manipulation and it’s sad your sympathy only exists for haesoo just because she’s the protagonist.

Okay so ur comment is so incredibly dumb my jaw was on the floor the entire time. All those words and u said said absolutely nothing. I wanna start off with saying all i usually EVER do in this stories' comment section is talk about how much of a douche minshit is. So don't even start with the "wahwah why don't u hate on the guyy". Also I don't like haesoo "JuSt BeCauSe she'S ThE ProTagoNisT". She could be a side character NPC for all I care but she was the one cheated on so u want me to hate and spit on her? Also this whole "she was younger" thing really irks me because u say you people arent infantilizing her but she's literally in her mid 20s...at what point do u start taking responsibility? She's an ADULT! The "she's younger she doesn't know better" only applies to people who don't have a deviled frontal lobe yet lmao. Grown women are not the clueless idiots you think they are. She obviously knew something was fishy but turned a blind eye to it and you can call that getting manipulated all you want but the truth of the matter is that she knew something was up. Even you people who think grown women are idiots just cause they're "sheltered" should understand this. I also like how you conveniently left out the part where she was calling haesoo mean things just to win over minshit? You admitted that she didn't even know haesoo but still talked down on a woman like that. I would never, but you're saying that's acceptable? That's when I really started getting annoyed by her tbh cause even i wanted to believe she was the innocent white lotus type.You are not the woke person you think u are queen sorry.

okay fine, i won’t talk about her age.

what responsibility is hers really? her only “crime” was believing the man she was in love with

you’re not even deconstructing my arguments, you’re just insulting and brushing me off. i also didn’t even tell you to dislike haesoo, wdym “oh so u want me to hate and spit on her,” no..? don’t put words in my mouth, i literally said haesoo is a victim too. i’m asking why can’t you have sympathy for both when they’re both being affected by the same man. i know it feels like haesoo has it worse, which is objectively true based on haesoo’s and mincheol’s deep and interconnected history, but that doesn’t mean you can’t have no sympathy for ahri at all. in a lot of readers eyes, haesoo is the “perfect victim,” not only is she the protagonist but she cries, expresses her sadness quietly, and her situation is so unfortunate that you can’t help but pity her. and when she does express her anger, she doesn’t truly “get her way” aka winning mincheol back. ahri is an example of a flawed victim, someone who people have a harder time sympathizing, and i get it. but that really doesn’t mean you should be blaming her to the extent that you are.

omg she's a grown ass woman, how young can she be if she's already working in an office :'>> how can she be that dumb like actually that blind? She saw another girl storm her way in, claiming to be his wife. Anyone, I mean any normal human being could have sensed there is a red flag.

I get what you're trying to say, to stop victim-blaming, and I am not saying it's entirely her fault, but considering the progress of the story and her interaction with Mincheol until now, she's just too naive like to the point she's ignoring it on purpose.

she’s 23-25 btw, her age gap is almost just as bad as taeha and haesoo’s. and she did address haesoo claiming to be his wife by BREAKING UP WITH HIM. the point was her naivety allowed her to be manipulated by him again, as it’s his word against his ex-wife. he presented himself as this humble and pitiful man who had no other choice but to keep living with his ex-wife. ahri, being naive, thinks she can essentially “rescue” him and totally forgives him. was she too readily persuaded? yes, but she was also distraught and ready to get black out drunk. she has no reason to think he’ll go back to haesoo because he now lives with her full-time. she’s not ignoring it on purpose either, she genuinely thinks there’s a shot at them getting married, when mincheol is the one who keeps stringing her along despite saying he cut off all ties with haesoo. again, her only fault was being too trusting and naive, not that she was trying to ignore it on purpose.

I know she's in her twenties. That's why I said she's a grown woman. And I think their age gap hardly affect anything to her decision-making and got anything to do with her being manipulated.
Look, I know what you're trying to convey, but this is just the part where you and I have to agree to disagree.
While it's not entirely her fault that's she's being manipulated, it's PAINFULLY CLEAR that there are red flags all over Mincheol. A girl claiming to be his wife barge into their room, not having a house to stay while also never once agreed to marry her, and finally always fiddling with his phone. There are so many :'>

Again, if it is any other situations, I would have sided with those who got victim-blamed, but she's just too dumb, to the point I think she might choose to ignore the red flags. And yes, I think "believing that she can change him" also naive as heck :'>

give her some time omg the story isn’t focused on her, this isn’t tears on ahri’s flowers … their relationship is barely even out of the honeymoon stage. she’s gonna start noticing problems like him not eating her cooking and him disappearing on her randomly and then getting beat up. plus, the story conveniently needs mincheol is stay somewhere else so haesoo and taeha can progress their relationship. again, this story isn’t going to give an actual opportunity YET for her to start reflecting on their relationship and all it’s red flags.

stop using rhetoric that actual abuse victims and people who try to leave toxic relationships get like “why didn’t you leave sooner?”, “why didn’t you see the signs sooner?” i hope you don’t actually use this language on someone trying to navigate a toxic relationship. you’re making it sound like she deserves to be in a toxic relationship just because she’s naive and too trusting. it’s not her fault the person she loves is a horrible person.