Relationship

Hii! Okay soo I just wanna start by saying you are very kind and a caring by make sure your partner is well. I don’t think you are being controlling even though it might come off that way but at the end of the day, you do have his health in mind. Now, I’ll be honest with you and say it seems like they won’t change. I don’t know you both as people but if they lied to you despite you giving them an ultimatum, that can speak volumes. If they have an eating disorder then this is something they really need to fix but if this is for attention then I’d say don’t engage when they mention it. If they look skinner than before then you’ll know it’s an eating disorder because they likely aren’t eating a lot . If they were too lazy to make food there are fast food restaurants and there are cheaper food if they aren’t well off. Again I don’t know them as a person so take what I say with a grain of salt. But I definitely think you should bring this up to them and not saying you will block them because at this point they think you won’t but instead tell them that it hurts you that they’ve lied and aren’t taking better care of themselves. Also tell them that you feel conflicted because you want the best for them but don’t want to feel like you are forcing them to do something. If they don’t listen to you or care for what you say, it’s up to you whether you’d like to stay in that relationship and you shouldn’t feel guilty for not wanting to put up with that. But I will say if they treat you amazing and all then maybe you shouldn’t let this be the sole reason you both split. I say start with having a serious conversation and then move forward from there!!!

Don't worry everytime I've calmed down, I always communicate w him and this will absolutely not be the reason we will break up. Thankyou, I just needed words to make a decision and what to say to him. I'll unblock him now because I've calmed down already.

Also he treats me like I'm his goddess so don't worry about if he hurts me or smthI actually feel like I'm the one who's giving him the bare minimum.

Plzzz you clearly care for him if you’re stressed about his well being. Only he knows if you aren’t treating him well enough and yall probably wouldn’t be together if he thought that. Keep doing what youre doing and if it’s working out im so happy for you both! I really hope you help him out. Maybe try going in call and doing a mukbang or something to help or begging him to try random foods cuz you want to see his reaction. Either way good luck ;p

If you need advice I got you. Idk how but I got you

You’re his girlfriend not his nurse. If he doesn’t want to get better, no one can do it for him. The more you’ll try to put all your energy for him, the less efforts he will do (cause you already give your all, which is enough for him). Also, the more energy you give him, the less energy you’ll have for your own self and at some point it will simply be draining for you to the point you’ll completely forget about yourself and even lose yourself. You can’t fight for a battle that is not yours especially when the one who should fight doesn’t want to win (or even fight). Sure, you can support him, but as I said, you can’t fight for him. There’s nothing you can do if he doesn’t want to want to be better. Don’t fall into this kind of trap. He might like the attention, because if you’re worried, it means you care and if you care, it means you love him, so every time you’re worried, he feels loved, so he might never try to make efforts since you need to keep on being worried (so that he can keep on feeling loved). People with mental disorders deserve to be loved but their mental disorders are their own responsibility and if they decide to be in a relationship, they HAVE to take care of it, as I said, it’s their own responsibility (having a eating disorder IS a mental disorder). It has only been a month, it’s not like you were stuck in this toxic relationship for years, you can still let it go. A relationship should NEVER be a burden.

Ty!! I confronted him and I am waiting for his reply. I asked him questions if he has an eating disorder or if he has some other mental problems. Once I get the answers, I am definitely taking y'all's advices into account and see.

sorry not an advide BUT what a man-child behavior is this...

Some people are in denial. He might say that he’s got no disorders OR he might use it so that you pity him and keep on trying again and again and again until there’s no more empathy left inside you (it can take years). You might be fucked, whatever his reply is. Don’t trust his words, trust his actions and behaviors. You’re his girlfriend. Your not his nurse nor his mother.

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Exactlyyyyyyy

Guys lol he finally replied and I reprimanded him like a lot he still refused to express his opinion/thoughts because he's not good w words...anyway I told him I would leave him if he doesn't change and he made a promise he will take care of himself better. It's not enough for me, but ig I'll bear with that for now.

I told him if he I see no progress we'll be done. I'll be watching his actions now. Since we've js started, we are still not comfy enough for vcs but once I'm comfy enough and he is too, I'm monitoring him through that. I'll make him send updates with images too. Thankyou lot!! I'm definitely coming back here again for advice.

Ahh ok I’m glad you stood your ground! If this happens again this definitely isn’t good and you should show him you mean business!! Again hope it all works out!