Hello! I am sooo sorry you have to deal with this as you don’t deserve to be stress especially by someone who has hurt you in the past! I will say it seems like you are taking the gentle parenting approach even though you aren’t their parents. But remember, you are the older one here. I don’t know how old your siblings are but they should have respect for you. If there is one thing that they would go crazy over that you have is their phones and other devices! Take them away anytime they decide that they want to ignore you or defy you. Hid them all until they get their chores done. If they as for it back tell them no. If they try to leave the house or do something bad tell them no. Sometimes you have to teach them that there are consequences to their actions despite them being your family. You can do things like cut the WiFi off if they ignore you that way they have no service and are forced to figure it out and ask you. Things of that sort. I wouldn’t want to get you in trouble so ask your parents first but definitely don’t take the gentle parenting approach as it doesn’t really get you anywhere at an older age. Again I’m sorry for that and if you need more advice I got you ;p
Also idk what fluff means sadly so I don’t know if I helped
No it’s fine thank you so much for reading what I had to say. Unfortunately I am not allowed to take my brothers phone away and my younger sister doesn’t have one. My younger sister is about to be 14 and my younger brother is about to be 17. My parents are firm on the fact that I shouldn’t punish my siblings. So the only thing I can really do is remind them. Also I’m in my early twenties. Thank you again but I can’t really do much so I have resolved to venting. Lastly Fluff is just manga (or any other types of comics) that have cute and warm moments. Typically in romance with nothing toxic or too sad.
Thank you so much!
It sounds pretty tough what you are going through. You are a very caring and responsible sibling for trying to remind your brother to do some basic housekeeping. Also as an older sibling, I want to remind you that this IS NOT your responsibility, getting your brother to do chores or other things to help out. At the end of the day, the people who are mainly responsible are your parents and I hope they will communicate with him because that is THEIR son. BUT! I am proud of you for your patience towards your brother and not lashing out on him. At some point, if he can't change his behaviour, the best thing to do is to tell your parents about it (it's the parents role to be role model and to teach their children what to do, not their sibling, although, it's good you are looking out for him too). Your brother's actions are out of your control, and you have done what you can, if he ultimately doesn't listen, it's not your fault, please don't beat yourself over this. Hope you are doing well
Thank you so much for the support. It’s been rough but I’m glad that there are people who care like you and the others who have commented. I’ll try to remember that it’s not my responsibility that they aren’t listening. Thank you so so much!
Hey guys I’m away from home visiting my families house in a different state. My parents took the youngest with them on a trip. My younger sister who is 18 went to visit her boyfriend in another country. Anyway I’m in charge of taking care of and making sure my younger brother, sister, and family friend don’t get into trouble. The family friend has been listening but the other two have had a difficult time. My younger sister kept questioning me or just telling me she’ll do her daily chores later. (My parents told me that they don’t want me going to bed till the chores are all done. At 12:00 I asked my sister again after a lot of reminding to at least stack the dishes in the dishwasher (she also was told to at clean her room since around last Monday before my mom left. But I told her several times this morning to at least take the bottles and cups of left over fruit from last week away.) she questioned whined and said she’d do it later but then after looking up from her computer I think she felt sorry for me that I was just tired (on top of pms) and didn’t want to stay up any longer. My younger brother had a chore to water the front yard everynight but hasn’t done it despite knowing the fact that I will get in trouble for him not doing it. He has been supposed to be doing it since Wednesday and hasn’t. He said yesterday he did but he knows he’s supposed to have me time him for 45 min. I reminded him a ton though out the day and when it got to 11:30 he still didn’t do it so I told him to he needed to. While I was talking to my sister in another room he went downstairs to his room. I called him several times and then went down. I knocked and he didn’t answer. I called and asked my mom and she said to knock and then open if he didn’t respond. He was ignoring me while on a call with his girlfriend and quickly pretended to be asleep. (I got irritated because he did this the night before to and I let it go) I told him to go up and water the lawn. I went up and waited 8 minutes then went back down. Back in his bed I called him up again. After around 10 minutes he came up and got water. Then went right back down. I was about to get him 10 min later and then he came up. I did the timer and he went out. He came out immediately and said the grass was damp so he didn’t want to do it…… it wasn’t damp. 5 min later he came in and said he was done. I told him he only did 5 min out of 45 and he got frustrated with me. He went back out and I continued the timer. I had a bad feeling and went out and he wasn’t watering he just snagged my dad’s cigarette and was smoking. (My parents know and have tried grounding him and he just gets vapes and other stuff from friends.) I got frustrated and went inside to calm down then went out and told him to tell me when he starts again. The process of him coming in and me having to send him out again happened repeatedly after almost every 5 min (once it was 10) every time he would argue about how it was ridiculous. At about 10 minutes left I have enough and just wanted to go after he came in again. Anyway I tried my hardest to have patience. (It’s hard though in his case because I have a grudge against him for sexually assaulting me in my sleep a couple years ago so it’s harder for me to have patience with him). ANYWAY!!! All this to explain the magnitude of my frustration and that I’m desperate and need an amount of fluff and such to counteract this amount of anger and frustration.