Even though I really like the chemistry between them, I get what you mean. Like, the moment I read that the Dom is triple S rank/tier, I immediately imagined that he would have some strong fetish (not meaning anything bad, just maybe more on the BDSM side) or a super strong and wild libido.
So, it surprised me a little how wholesome they actually are. Not that I think it's bad, to me they are still super sexy and charming, but then again, I understand the potential they could have had
It's 'cause dom/subverse plays more on the possessiveness than it does kink or fetish play.
It's like omegaverse minus the mpreg and sprinkle in light role-playing. It isn't meant to reflect actual bdsm and tbh it isn't really about bdsm per se.
I didn’t mention bdsm, kink or fetish though? When I say dom/sub I mean the power plays, doesn’t have to have anything to do with ‘whips and chains’, unless that’s what you are both into. But it’s always the same things with these type of plots, “present”, “stay”, “come”. It’s so ridiculously tame and not what true power play is like or the high you can get off them. And with the way this one now introducing a “sub smell” it’s going more omegaverse than ever.
No, fr, the BDSM part was just an example that come across my mind (since have this kinda of power play). It’s cause, since they put some kind of super ranking into the Dom, It just made me wonder what difference they would make compared to other Doms from other works, so I (who I’m not sub/dom myself) came up with these more extreme ideas. but i do understand that dom/sub verse and BDS/kink/fetish are two different things :)
Subs/doms giving off pheromones isn't new. In almost every single one I've read to date there's been some form of people being able to tell when a sub/dom is going through deficiency. Whether it's smell or their physical appearance is all the same.
There *are* series that get into heavier kinks. Commands are just basic level play and what most of the general audience can tolerate. I don't know about you but I'd rather not read hundreds of comments again saying how "gross" sounding is or how "abusive" binding someone ropes/belts/straps is.
All of these things you are complaining about not seeing fall under kink or fetish play. It's *why* I used those terms specifically. Most vanilla people aren't into being forced to hold cum in their mouths for 5 minutes before swallowing or being bent over someone's knee, while tied up, to be spanked. A lot of them aren't into being blindfolded and left alone in a room not knowing whether or not they are going to be touched in 5 min or an hour.
It's all good lol I was referring to OP anyways and not replying to you.
Most of the time, tho, the rankings dictate how strong their urges are and what kind of plays they require.
Like, a basic tier sub might only need light command play to survive while one on a higher or lower tier ((depends on which direction the writer powerscales)) might require harsher plays to be satisfied. It's the same with doms, too.
There's a series ((that I need to go back and reread)) where the dom required hard-core plays to feel satisfied and suffered from lack of finding partners 'cause of it. He's unfortunately paired up with a sub who has never done plays before but they fall in love with each other despite this issue which in turn breeds a whole new issue all together.
Again — where did I ever complain about kink, fetish, or the other stuff you’re rambling about? I said power play, which is the core of a dom/sub dynamic. That’s not the same as kink or BDSM accessories, and I NEVER brought any of that up.
If you’re going to jump in to correct people, respond to what they actually said (active reading). For the last time: I was critiquing the lack of depth in power dynamics in these stories — the absence of real psychological intensity and emotional control that defines authentic dom/sub relationships.
I wasn’t asking for kink, I wasn’t asking for fetish, and I sure as hell wasn’t asking to be mansplained to.
You literally did not state what exactly you were referring to tho??
To literally quote you, "Don’t even know how any of what they are doing really constitutes dom/sub. It’s so passive. Such wasted potential makes me sad."
You're not talking about kinks or fetishes, sure, but you're also not saying anything about power play either. You left it up to interpretation for whatever reason and now you're mad that someone is pointing out that dom/subverse isn't necessarily about actual BDSM and more about the core values of safety and consent.
At least I'm not being vague about what I mean, even if I do go into autistic detail about what I'm trying to convey. It's better that someone who is getting butthurt over someone explaining what dom/subverse is about lol
Hilariously, tho, you are also ignoring whatever tf I'm trying to say.
I don't know why I waste my time in the comment sections anymore when everyone just acts like an entitled brat when I'm just trying to make things easier to understand. I shouldn't have to preface every one of my replies with "not meaning to offend you by trying to explain this information--" but it's looking more and more like I need to.
You really need a muzzle, stupid mutt.
You have literally assumed I didn’t understand what Dom/sub relationships meant when I clearly stated I have been in both, then mansplained (incorrectly), put words in my mouth, ignored my further attempt to clarify, continued to mansplain, then tried to insult me (defensive narcissism) when I called you on your bs. Pathetic. I have no interest in interacting with someone so transparently insecure (fragile ego) and lacking in awareness.
-sigh- as someone who has been both a dom and a sub these always fail to live up to my expectations. Don’t even know how any of what they are doing really constitutes dom/sub. It’s so passive. Such wasted potential makes me sad .