Go and marry and have kids with her instead. Don’t drag other people into your mess of an emotionally incestuous life. It’s fine to love your parents but if you’re putting your parents over a partner you supposedly love and cherish AND over your own kids? That’s emotional incest. It’s gross and you need therapy. This applies to everyone in the world. NO ONE should put their parents or siblings above their spouse and children. If you’re the kind of person to do that, stay single and celibate. Keep that out of our lives. And if you aren’t emotionally incestuous but instead are a coward who can’t stand up to your parents for the sake and safety of your own spouse and children? Don’t have kids. You should also be single and celibate. No one needs a partner who will not protect them and their kids. This goes for both/all spouses. Get therapy if any of this sounds like you. Because this isn’t normal and means your parents abused you whether through fear or emotional dependency and neither of those things are things you should bring into relationships with love at its core.
Go and marry and have kids with her instead. Don’t drag other people into your mess of an emotionally incestuous life. It’s fine to love your parents but if you’re putting your parents over a partner you supposedly love and cherish AND over your own kids? That’s emotional incest. It’s gross and you need therapy. This applies to everyone in the world. NO ONE should put their parents or siblings above their spouse and children. If you’re the kind of person to do that, stay single and celibate. Keep that out of our lives. And if you aren’t emotionally incestuous but instead are a coward who can’t stand up to your parents for the sake and safety of your own spouse and children? Don’t have kids. You should also be single and celibate. No one needs a partner who will not protect them and their kids. This goes for both/all spouses. Get therapy if any of this sounds like you. Because this isn’t normal and means your parents abused you whether through fear or emotional dependency and neither of those things are things you should bring into relationships with love at its core.