That's just how asian culture is, here family is everything, it's not about who has the right or not, we meddle into each other's business regardless because we want the best for our families... unless the trope is about some evil family which is not the case here
I understand that his father surely means well and only wants the best for his son, and I don't mean to judge other cultures I swear, but I just think that a grown man or woman has every right to live their own life as they want and to make their own choices, right or wrong... A parent can give their opinion if they want to help you, and be there for you when you need it, but it's just not fair demanding to control your child's life forever, at some point you have to let them go their own way! Like I said, children are not a parents' property... Ukano is now an independent adult who makes a living with his own job, and his father has absolutely no right to meddle to the point of preventing him from marrying the person he loves and imposing conditions, whatever the reason. People should be able to live their own life, and it's not fair as a parent to impose yourself to this extent... This is my opinion.
just because it's how it's always been doesn't mean that it's right or just or fair. you're an individual, not an extension of your parents and I know us Asians place emphasis on filial piety but it shouldn't be to this extent. you shouldn't justify it with "it's just culture". in Japan purity culture is huge over there, should the misogyny be justified with "it's always been like this so it shouldn't change?".
Thank you for this... I'm not Asian and I didn't want to risk offending anyone's culture but, as you said, just because a mindset is part of a culture doesn't mean it's fair! Honestly I'm worried about people who defend the father or who dislike comments like mine, I mean, what I said that was wrong? I think it should be obvious that an ADULT is free to live their own life, make their own choices, and love and marry who they want since we are not our parents' puppets...
I suppose for those people is just normal to have their life controlled by their parents and it's sad
yw ! and dw you're not being offensive. the person who replied to your post is part of the problem because this assumption that family shouldn't have boundaries is really pervasive. and abusive parents especially care more about the family image and their image in society than exhibiting actual concern for their child. but back to the marriage issue, a lot of parents feel entitled to meddle or decide or give unwanted and pressuring comments to their children to have an ideal spouse or partner and its freaking shitty especially since they tend to be super passive aggressive so I'm like dot dot dot that's exactly what's happening to this couple here lol.
while family and community is important and for Asians it's hard to cut off family, we should at least set boundaries and view each other as adults and not perpetual children.
Haha, idk why y'all thought i was a part of the problem when y'all don't even know me... anyways, if you think what the dad did here in the manga is oppressive then y'all haven't seen what real asian families are like...
As much as i do agree with your notion of independence and individuality, if you haven't noticed but the older brother went through a similar relationship and it probably broke off quite badly atleast that's what the manga was hinting at so it's not unnatural that the dad would want to test the mc's relationship. The dad looks quite supportive of them too, just that he wants to give them a bit of hard time...
Furthermore the desire to prove oneself worthy is a common human experience, so I'm sorry if you feel that proving yourself worthy in front of you potential in laws or the fact that one's parent wants to test their kid's s/o to avoid past tragedies is sad and oppressive.
Also I've seen western families test their future son/daughter in laws too so it's really not a asian thing, it depends on the family you're from.
I'm sorry, no hate for the story, which I love, but I'm just so tired of this cliché of the rich and powerful parents meddling in their (grown-ass) children's love life, used only to move the story forward by creating suspense... Honestly it's just irritating! I mean, can't it just be about the couple with their personal joys and sorrows since we are talking about two grown men living free in the modern time?? Parents can have and express their opinion of course but once the children become adults they have absolutely no right to interfere like that, imposing condition and everything for their partners... Even if they think they are acting for their good, they have to understand that they are not their property! People have to make their own choices and go their own way. A parent should just support you and be there for you no matter what, period. I just don't understand why authors often throws in these unnecessary parents' dramas instead of developing something more intriguing...