I've also noticed this kind of mindset in a lot of other stories. Especially if the use is shown sleeping with someone else (forced or nonforced) even if it's before the "official" relationship began. Purity culture in yaoi is wild hahaha
It’s so common in a lot of the East Asian media/culture/stories I’ve seen and read. Naturally with how normalized this has become, even outside of East Asian media, people shame the victim more often. I think when it comes to BL, a lot of Korean women authors vent out in the stories they make (men x men rape etc) due to them being pressured to be the one who takes it all, the one that has to be pure.
I’m just shocked at how bad the people are when it comes to comprehension and admitting fault. Blaming the victim is cherry on top. Sasya did what he had to for his work, his passion. Even if he did sleep with the sponsor, he wasn’t with Karel and isn’t obligated to be.
If he’s not “pure” during their separation, is he ugly to them or what? It’s a very harmful perspective to have.
Forgive my yapping. Adding on— this is coming from someone who was raised in a highly conservative/traditional Asian household, being pure is a daughter’s dignity. I don’t promote sleeping around irresponsibly, but there’s balance. As the eldest brother, I won’t stop my sisters or anyone from doing what they are happy/consenting to do. Not how it works.
The reader made it sound like Sasya was obligated to be pure, and it’s difficult for me to understand that mindset. Obviously Sasya has his faults, but it’s definitely not to do with the sponsor/sexual.
Let’s clear some things up.
Sasya never slept with anyone else, including the sponsor, during the time of separation with Karel. I remember another novel reader mentioning that.
The thing with the sponsor only went as far as touching, but it wasn’t like Sasya wanted it. He didn’t enjoy any of the touches, and did it for his work.
Sasya did not initiate the kiss in ch 82, it was Guidin that forced it upon and we don’t see the kissing scene, just mentioned with Karel seeing it.
Blaming and bashing Sasya for this without reading properly is wild. You do not need to love Sasya because I don’t either, however, it’s important to not misinform.