Yun oh is annoying af idc atp

I mean it kinda super clear that the blonde guy is only dating him so he doesn’t leave, he doesn’t actually like black hair guy the way he wants him to. I also wouldn’t want to date someone who doesn’t want me no matter how much I want them

I mean he can still fall in love with him while he's dating him it's not as tho he can't just break up with him if he feels that way. I think them dating is a chance for him to actually make an effort into deepening their relationship. And what is haewon supposed to do? I mean Yun oh gets upset regardless atp sooo he can either put distance or try a relationship out with him. Not like he forced him either

His “lover” said to his face that he’s only with him so he doesn’t pack up and leave. I’ve been in a similar situation where I gave a sort of ultimatum to an on/off partner of mine that we either go exclusive or I leave and never see him again and he chose exclusive but every action of his showed me he still thought of me as an on/off partner or fwb. I felt so guilty every second I felt happy because I felt like I forced or trapped him in an unhappy and unhealthy relationship situation with me. In his mind, he was happy with our relationship and not much had changed. I couldn’t handle it and eventually broke down and left him. He’s not being unreasonable. His love and his guilt are warring inside of him and the guilt is eating him alive. He’s also being confronted by the fact that he’s a burden to his loved one and that his loved one feels an obligation to take care of him as he would a child. That’s a horrific position to be in. Unless you’re in that situation, it’s so easy to say “be happy! You finally got what you wanted!!” But the reality is that finally getting what you wanted in THIS manner is your own personal hell that you created so you can’t even complain about it and you end up stewing in resentment and guilt and self loathing. Please cut him some slack and give him some grace.

Okay but if he feels that way he can say that why would he even agree to a relationship knowing where he stands and like I said he's not even making an attempt to get him to see him differently and it's not even like they've dated for long. I'd understand the self pity if he at least tried but he's not even trying imo like I get the guilt and the emotions behind why he's acting this way I still find it annoying asf and the reason why I find it the most annoying is pretty much what u said he created this hell of his so like its hard to feel bad for him in this stance. Esp when u can always attempt to turn things arnd. Sorry about ur situation but at least u left but Yun oh isn't going anywhere which makes this more irritating to witness. I mean I hope he does for at least a break or smthn or regardless try and work something out

He’s been trying for years and years and has resigned himself to it never happening. Hope hurts more than pain does. I left because I stayed with that dude for 5 years and I was at my mental breaking point. The day I tried to hurt myself was the day I said enough was enough. Until that point, I resigned myself to be happy enough with the toxic situation. He’s the same. He’s equal parts happy and guilty and he can’t do more because he will become more of a burden and his hyung will hate him and leave and he can’t leave on his own because he had sex with his hyung twice and caused him to break up with his partner. If you caused that much trouble, would you be able to back out that easily? You end up so overwhelmed by guilt that you stay stuck in your position for fear that any move forward or backwards will shatter this sweet illusion you’re in. You can find it annoying but it’s realistic. If you hate it, drop the manhwa. If not, accept that this is the new reality cause he’s not gonna change until blonde hyung changes or his mental health plummets to the point he wants to die.

First of all when did I say I hate it idc if u can relate to him I can still find him annoying while enjoying the manhwa. Realistic or not it's annoying if this happened to one of my friends irl I would still find it annoying, like why are u pressed I find him annoying. And still he caused this himself I don't need u to run a whole monologue to me abt his feelings and all that I can understand him just fine and still find the situation at hand that HE caused annoying. And I won't be dropping the manhwa for my own personal opinion and feelings on it and I don't need ur projections thrown my way buddy. Like his feelings makes a lot of sense so does ur take on it but I simply dislike his actions and him lashing out because of it