To those annoyed by the uke, here’s my thoughts and personal experiences

Here’s some insight from someone who’s gone through similar:

Yes, he finally got what he “wanted” but his “lover” said to his face that he’s only with him so he doesn’t pack up and leave. I’ve been in a similar situation where I gave a sort of ultimatum to an on/off partner of mine that we either go exclusive or I leave and never see him again and he chose exclusive but every action of his showed me he still thought of me as an on/off partner or fwb. I felt so guilty every second I felt happy because I felt like I forced or trapped him in an unhappy and unhealthy relationship situation with me. In his mind, he was happy with our relationship and not much had changed. I couldn’t handle it and eventually broke down and left him. He’s not being unreasonable. His love and his guilt are warring inside of him and the guilt is eating him alive. He’s also being confronted by the fact that he’s a burden to his loved one and that his loved one feels an obligation to take care of him as he would a child. That’s a horrific position to be in. Unless you’re in that situation, it’s so easy to say “be happy! You finally got what you wanted!!” But the reality is that finally getting what you wanted in THIS manner is your own personal hell that you created so you can’t even complain about it and you end up stewing in resentment and guilt and self loathing. You can’t even escape unscathed cause either they dump you and tell you how much of a burden you are or you dump them and feel horrible for causing this whole situation to begin with or even worse yet, you stay and both are you are utterly miserable. So please, let’s cut him some slack and give him some grace.