hi fluffyknight, I think BL (esp smut) is also like any other smut/ero mangas in the way that it is classified under the porn genre (u get what i mean)
just like any other fiction and fantasy, these mangas or manhwas isn’t and shouldn’t be an accurate representation of the real world, but rather used as entertainment and such.
there’s nothing wrong with only pining for fictional men but keep in mind that your life is what you make of it, and even though you won’t be able to experience any of these fictional men in real life, you will create your own experiences that is unique to your life and trust when I say that the joy and euphoria of experiencing love and companionship and happiness and romance in the real world is beyond what you are satisfied with from simple reading these manhwas. go out, live your life, do it all. you only live once :)
Thanks for understanding and the life advice
(づ￣ ³￣)づ
I will do so after making sure that Im emotionally available to accept if someone come to me.
heyyy not a gay guy so i cant relate on that level but a 20 y/o girl who is attracted to men and feels almost the exact same way! basically since middle school ive been reading books, manga, manhwa, and watching shows, anime, and movies with these guys that seem like they only exist in fictonal worlds. today, i mainly read bl and do kinda yearn for a guy like those in some of the bl i do read (im aware they are gay but im talking more so the personality). i 100% also want a guy who is obsessed with me/yearns for me but with what i see out there, i fear the chances of that happening are basically none. also love ur point about being optimistic and im gonna start thinking that too lol!
that aside, i do think that when it comes to the real world, obviously the guys are going to be different, and as long as you understand that i think its good. however, i also think that your expectations and preferences in a relationship/partner shouldnt be minimized just because there are so many subpar guys out there. as long as what you want is even remotely obtainable/realistic, i dont see the harm in wanting that. i promise there is someone out there who wants a person they can yearn for.
sorry if some of this makes no sense, i just woke up. wanted to just share my experience but sorry if this is more than you wanted or isnt applicable to you. hope this helps!!! (⌒▽⌒)
I easily understand your point, not to lower a standard if it is obtainable.
I hope someone will enter my life at the right time (づ￣ ³￣)づ
Thanks also for the advice.
Hey, I don’t hate you at all. I’m still in high school (and pregnant lmao), so I totally get escaping into manhwa — it’s comforting. Just remember, real love isn’t always like in stories. High standards are okay, but don’t let perfect fiction stop you from seeing macho sweetheart men irl
-lyy
Im 23 years old and gay virgin boy who loves to read BL since 2020.
I feel like Im too disattached from the world, to the point that my standards for guys is just like in manhwa built.
Maybe this is the reason why Im still virgin and while trying to sleep in night, Im thinking of a top guy who yearns for me (but in a manhwa setting).
I cant imagine real guys nor I have any crush from the real world. I know it isnt real, but Im thinking optimistally that atleast I dont contract sexual diseases since Im safe (Im not just judging people with sexual disease, but rather for myself)
Does anyone also feel the same way with me? That keeps imagining fiction romance rather than real life?
Do you hate me because Im not touching grass (reality)? Cause Im not sure if I can share this with other people close to me in real life.