People keep mentioning her age but isn’t she just in her 30s? And he’s in his 20s? Yet...

I think it's about power balance. An age gap of 10byears might not be that big, but remember how she doesn't know who he really is? To her, he is just some kid and she probably feels weird. I know I would feel like a groomer if I were her.

You can’t “groom” an adult though and there’s no power imbalance bc she was left with a huge debt by her ex husband.if anything they’re in the same boat. And again, it’s not just her dating someone younger. Ginger guy is dating someone younger too, but no one is his story is calling him old or saying he’s taking advantage (even though he’s literally doing that to her). In fact his coworkers encouraged him to go after someone younger.

First of all you need to chill. Second of all, I think we can all agree the husband is a jerk who is taking advantage of the innocence and inexperience of that girl to fool her into being with him despise his numerous red flags. Is there a power imbalance? Obviously. Yes, his colleagues encouraged him because a lot of men are a-holes and predators. I mean, just look at the way they talk about women in general, as if they're things to be possessed. Third of all, I only said Haesoo probably FEELS like she's grooming him, I didn't say she actually does groom him. She doesn't know who he is, to her he is an inexperienced kid. And yes, this would normally be a power imbalance. If I compare my 32 years old self to my 22 years old, then I can definitely say I was a child at 22 and someone 10 years older than me could have easily profited. Now, this is a particular case because Taeha's real identity makes him the more powerful one, meaning the imbalance is actually in his favor since Haesoo being poorer, non influential, unaware things, at an obvious disadvantage. Still, I repeat, to her he is a kid. I am 35 and I would have so many reservations towards dating a 25 years. Being of legal age doesn't automatically make you an adult.

I think it is a cultural thing, I also find it strange she calls him "kid" but to her it's just a cute way of addressing him ig?

I’m not here to argue, you gave an opinion then I gave mine. You’d feel guilty for dating a grown man then that’s you. He’s 25, he’s not a kid. They met as adults. And I was only calling out the story’s double standard on how the characters treat the two relationships. Also if you’re 32 with a 22 year old kid youre basically saying you got pregnant at 10 which would imply conception at 9 or 10; most girls don’t even get their periods until 11 or 12. It’s a fiction, no need to lie to defend your point. Quite frankly it’s not that deep to lie on an illegal porn app. Jesus christ

Like telling me to chill when I wasn’t even being rude is actually insane. Have a better day girl

Yeah that’s what I’m thinking, I can definitely see it being a cultural difference. And now that you mentioned it, the kid thing could also be a term of endearment, I hadn’t even thought of that. Lol

considering how you are throwing it around like a buzzword, you clearly do not know what the word grooming means

I personally think the author just wants to emphasise how women don't go for younger men often for many reasons and how women look at themselves as objectively much older at 35 than men at 35.

I can see that. I just feel sad for her, she’s made to feel guilty for her relationship, for her age, by everyone around her, and what’s worse is she does it to herself. She treats herself like she’s “expired goods” when she’s still a young woman with lots of life to live. The double standards from how the characters treat her vs how they treat her ex just rubbed me wrong lol. Like her coworker? exhausts me. Cause I’m pretty sure he told her he’s taking advantage of her and she’s got no rage towards him but is lecturing her about age.