I hope u can at least empathize with the idea that (1) ppl can be caught off guard by a heated situation and don’t necessarily have comebacks on the ready, esp when they’ve been fortunate enough to have mostly accepting or blissfully ignorant ppl around and are not used to such a hostile reaction to their relationship (2) that Kirishima could have hesitated out of fewr making things worse or stepping out of line since it isn’t his family in the first place, esp when Toudou was alresdy insistent on leaving, and (3) that queer ppl don’t necessarily have to dwell on ALL “things involved” in their relationship, esp ones that are as pressuring, heteronormative, or as far down the line as having children. Being queer is hard enough on its own, let them enjoy their relationship without the constant worry, or without having everything figured out. That’s not half-assing.
I know this is… a silly thing to send a long mssg over since it’s just fiction, but this experience is very real for a lot of queer folks out there. I.. hope your hostility towards Kirishima remains here, just as a work of fiction. I hope you’re more empathetic to real queer people you might meet who are going thru a similar circumstance
Actually I am gay and that is why this was pissing me off. I have seen multiple people within my social circle get into queer relationships without thinking much about it and then when reality hits that they might not be as accepted as they would be in a heterosexual relationship, they either cheat on their partner or break up with them. I have been fortunate enough to not have experienced this with a partner but I have seen the amount of hurt it causes people when you start dating a gay person without thinking it through. Gay people are not just for experimenting with your sexuality (even though I am saying "your", I am actually referring to the people who engage in this sort of behaviour and not to you as the commentor)
I know that it is hard to think about these things but if you don't think about them beforehand and later on realise that this is not something you can handle, it can be even more painful. Many of the times it is more painful for the other party, though of course I know that is not always the case.
Also regarding the hesitation, I get that he may not have been prepared in a heated situation but since he was able to reassure the mother earlier regarding his will to make her son happy, right now his hesitation seemed to make him look kind of uncertain. I also think that when you know you partner's parents have been a cause for his suffering throughout his life, then you should have defended him or your relationship at least a little bit. There are multiple respectful ways to do so. Though of course this last part stems from my personal ideologies
Kirishima kinda pissing me off with his lack of answer. Like you have to think about all the things that are involved before getting into a gay relationship, u can't halfass it.
Wdym u didn't know or think about the fact that u can't have kids before dating Akitaka