This explains a lot. To JJK he’s normalized physical violence so much that he’s desensitized to it and probably believes he does not abuse others, because his abuse is less violent than his father’s. But he fails to see that his behavior towards others is violent and wrong. He manhandles and menaces others physically. Like sure he’s never beaten Dan to a pulp but he grabs his body in a way that makes Dan feel like JJK could physically do whatever he wants with it. To which JJK does. This feeling of physical powerlessness is the same thing JJK probably felt as a child with his father. Oftentimes the abused person/child will promise they won’t be the same as their abuser and think that they are doing much better than their abuser but they still become an abuser. They can’t see even that their violence -which is way less apparent than their abuser’s- is STILL wrong even in small doses. Like sure JJK won’t hit a child but he’ll be physically menacing towards a grown man. Humans are very adaptable and really do normalize bad behavior to a point they believe they are good simply because their bad behavior is “better” compared to other “worse” behavior. For example, people who grew up spanked for discipline (albeit once in a while) might find that acceptable but others who have never been spanked or yelled at by their parents would be stunned to hear that their friends were spanked.
This explains a lot. To JJK he’s normalized physical violence so much that he’s desensitized to it and probably believes he does not abuse others, because his abuse is less violent than his father’s. But he fails to see that his behavior towards others is violent and wrong. He manhandles and menaces others physically. Like sure he’s never beaten Dan to a pulp but he grabs his body in a way that makes Dan feel like JJK could physically do whatever he wants with it. To which JJK does. This feeling of physical powerlessness is the same thing JJK probably felt as a child with his father. Oftentimes the abused person/child will promise they won’t be the same as their abuser and think that they are doing much better than their abuser but they still become an abuser. They can’t see even that their violence -which is way less apparent than their abuser’s- is STILL wrong even in small doses. Like sure JJK won’t hit a child but he’ll be physically menacing towards a grown man.
Humans are very adaptable and really do normalize bad behavior to a point they believe they are good simply because their bad behavior is “better” compared to other “worse” behavior. For example, people who grew up spanked for discipline (albeit once in a while) might find that acceptable but others who have never been spanked or yelled at by their parents would be stunned to hear that their friends were spanked.